how do sororities decide?

[srmom]

You were perfectly within your rights to decide the group wasn't for you. It's called "mutual selection" and you, as a pnm, decided to drop.

The other houses decided, for whatever reason, which are all confidential so you will never know, that they would not invite you for pref.

Nowhere in your posts did you say that you felt you were "better" than the house that you dropped, nor did you say that they were "beneath" you. That has been inferred by other posters and repeated as if you had originally posted either disparaging thing.
I wish you well in the future. Perhaps COB will work out, perhaps not.

BTW - jwright, after trying brussel sprouts once in my life many years ago, I can unequivocally say - I don't like brussel sprouts. I will not be bullied into liking them, nor made to feel bad about my decision to not want to eat them.

Wow, we cross posted trideltasallie - my thinking exactly!

[33girl]

Originally Posted by srmom

Nowhere in your posts did you say that you felt you were "better" than the house that you dropped, nor did you say that they were "beneath" you.

I believe the phrase "not worth the trouble" is the thing the OP said that stuck in people's craws. It's unquestionably a very dismissive thing to say.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I believe the phrase "not worth the trouble" is the thing the OP said that stuck in people's craws. It's unquestionably a very dismissive thing to say.

Right. I think people were just wondering, how do you know it's not worth the trouble if you don't go?

[LadyLonghorn]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I believe the phrase "not worth the trouble" is the thing the OP said that stuck in people's craws. It's unquestionably a very dismissive thing to say.

Exactly. The other sororities would have been worth the effort of getting out on her bad foot.