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Originally Posted by texas*princess
I may be in the minority here, but based on what she's posted so far, I would disagree with those that say she's being crazy.
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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy
Nope. I agree with you.
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Just because you agree with her doesn't mean you're not both in the minority here.
I don't know that any of us are saying she's being "crazy." I think many of us are saying that the situation she's posting doesn't sound like it's really about the study partner -- it sounds more like it's about her insecurity, perhaps some conflict on both her and her boyfriend's part about whether this is what they really want, and the need to communicate openly and honestly.
As an example of the latter -- you talk about the need for him to respect her feelings. I agree with that up to a point, but I see little in her posts that indicates to me that she is respecting
his feelings or demonstrating that she trusts him. After 20 years of marriage, I'd say that a good relationship isn't about her respecting my feelings or me respecting hers -- that's too simplistic. It's about finding the balance where we both feel respected and heard, and where, after compromise if need be, we each feel that we are respected by the other
and that we are being true to ourselves. Lose that balance and everything else will go out of balance.
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