graduate sorority question

XSK_Diamond · #1 10-10-2008, 07:42 AM

ETA: I don't know if the following applies to the OP, but very generally speaking...

In some sororities, AI is by invitation only (no application process) and "discretion" is mandated. The only acceptable way a woman can show her interest is by attending events the sorority sponsors, and trying to get to know current graduate members in the hopes of them liking her enough to extend her an invitation to join. Sometimes these events require the purchase of a ticket to attend.

The way it's set up, it looks like an interested woman is trying to buy her way into membership, but the reality is buying an event ticket and "mingling" to make contacts is the only acceptable way that woman can show her interest at this level. AI hopefuls, who don't already have contacts, have no other choice but to do it this way.

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Originally Posted by OTW

If she thinks she can buy her way into membership by attending these events, more power to her.

preciousjeni · #2 10-10-2008, 08:20 AM

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Originally Posted by XSK_Diamond

In some sororities, AI is by invitation only (no application process) and "discretion" is mandated. The only acceptable way a woman can show her interest is by attending events the sorority sponsors, and trying to get to know current graduate members in the hopes of them liking her enough to extend her an invitation to join. Sometimes these events (it seems like in her case, all the events) require the purchase of a ticket to attend.

The way it's set up, it looks like she's trying to buy her way into membership, but the reality is buying an event ticket and "mingling" to make contacts is the only acceptable way she can show her interest at this level. AI hopefuls, who don't already have contacts, have no other choice but to do what the OP did.

That's not what the OP said.

XSK_Diamond · #3 10-10-2008, 08:29 AM

I wasn't responding to the OP. I was responding to OTW's comment that the OP was trying to buy her way into membership of the org she's interested in. I don't know (and wouldn't comment specifically even if I did because I'm not a member) which sorority the OP was talking about. That's why I wrote "some sororities" in my reply to OTW.

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Originally Posted by preciousjeni

That's not what the OP said.

XSK_Diamond · #4 10-10-2008, 08:36 AM

I went back and made it clear I was giving general info and not assuming anything on the OP's part. That should quell any potential for misunderstanding my post.

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Originally Posted by preciousjeni

That's not what the OP said.

33girl · #5 10-10-2008, 09:28 AM

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Originally Posted by XSK_Diamond

In some sororities, AI is by invitation only (no application process) and "discretion" is mandated. The only acceptable way a woman can show her interest is by attending events the sorority sponsors, and trying to get to know current graduate members in the hopes of them liking her enough to extend her an invitation to join. Sometimes these events require the purchase of a ticket to attend.

The way it's set up, it looks like an interested woman is trying to buy her way into membership, but the reality is buying an event ticket and "mingling" to make contacts is the only acceptable way that woman can show her interest at this level. AI hopefuls, who don't already have contacts, have no other choice but to do it this way.

I don't think we should be throwing around the term "AI" for NPHC membership (which is obviously what the OP is pursuing) as it, well, really is not the same thing as AI as being discussed on here. It is graduate chapter intake.

XSK_Diamond · #6 10-10-2008, 11:47 AM

It's still the same thing, and I'm not going to split hairs because the OP didn't say for sure what she was pursuing so nobody really knows (ahem). She posted in the AI thread, so I'm following her lead. It's not as deep as you're making it.

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Originally Posted by 33girl

I don't think we should be throwing around the term "AI" for NPHC membership (which is obviously what the OP is pursuing) as it, well, really is not the same thing as AI as being discussed on here. It is graduate chapter intake.

33girl · #7 10-10-2008, 12:06 PM

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Originally Posted by XSK_Diamond

It's not as deep as you're making it.

Actually, yes, it is. AI into an NPC chapter and graduate chapter intake into an NPHC chapter are NOT the same thing.

XSK_Diamond · #8 10-10-2008, 12:37 PM

I was using the term AI in its most general sense; that of a college graduate pursuing membership in a GLO. The differences between NPC and NPHC graduate/alumnae recruitment are not important to me, but your clarification may help someone else.

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Originally Posted by 33girl

Actually, yes, it is. AI into an NPC chapter and graduate chapter intake into an NPHC chapter are NOT the same thing.

ree-Xi · #9 10-10-2008, 01:27 PM

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Originally Posted by XSK_Diamond

I was using the term AI in its most general sense; that of a college graduate pursuing membership in a GLO. The differences between NPC and NPHC graduate/alumnae recruitment are not important to me, but your clarification may help someone else.

It's not a matter of "importance"; rather, it's about respect. Respect for other organizations and how they operate.

"Alumnae Initiation into an NPC" is not the same as pursuing an NPHC as a graduate student, in any way, shape or form.

XSK_Diamond · #10 10-10-2008, 02:34 PM

I understand what you and 33girl are saying. Always have. And, I stand by what I wrote, with one exception, in that I made a bad word choice. It's not that the differences between AI and Graduate Intake are not important (I was trying to reply and keep an eye/ear on the maintenance man, without hovering like a hawk, at the same time). They just are not relevant to me, personally, because I'm not a member of a GLO that is represented by the NPC or NPHC. That is why I said the clarification may help someone else. But in NO WAY do I feel that other organization's practices are beneath me -- which is how I think you think I feel by how you are insinuating I lack respect for other organizations. That is NOT true in ANY case. Please don't start labeling me.

Outside of that, IMHO, anyone who wants to take issue with what I wrote is deliberately doing so, because I've tried several times to clarify; and even if I didn't use the correct terms, I find it very hard to believe that my intent and meaning were not understandable. I simply followed the OPs lead, that's all. Not being a member of either the NPC or NPHC, I did not believe it was my place to correct her, and when I replied to OTW, I gave general information that is public knowledge care of GC, Google, and the respective organization's websites. That's all, nothing else, and if that's not understandable, then I don't know what else I can do.

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Originally Posted by ree-Xi

It's not a matter of "importance"; rather, it's about respect. Respect for other organizations and how they operate.

"Alumnae Initiation into an NPC" is not the same as pursuing an NPHC as a graduate student, in any way, shape or form.

trummaNupe · #11 09-13-2009, 03:34 PM

I feel you must be diligent in your pursuit of becoming a member, just attending events and not making your intention knows are a waste of your time,However, you may not be a social butterfly- just make an attempt to connect with someone and let your desires be known.....i hope i was able to give you some sound advice. Again, good luck in your endeavor.

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