Advice and status of my move in

[ASTalumna06]

The only way that you should be concerned is if all of the nice things he does for her, he's ONLY doing for her.

If he walks her out to her car when it's dark, and he walks you out to your car when it's dark, then there shouldn't be a problem. If he's only doing it for her, then you should be concerned.

I love my boyfriend dearly, and he is quite possibly the greatest thing to happen to me. And what makes me even more attracted to him is that in addition to doing nice things for me, he does nice things for other people.. and for girls!

He has a class with one of my sorority sisters, and when she missed a class one day, he asked me for her number so that he could call her, tell her what she missed, copy the assignment for her, and go over it with her so she knew what was going on. That doesn't make me jealous. It makes me happy that I'm lucky enough to be with someone who's so incredibly nice!

And my bf has other girls that like him. I know that. Who wouldn't?! haha. But even if a girl is flirting with him, I KNOW that he loves me. And even if he "flirts" a little back, I know that it won't amount to anything.

If you can't trust that, then you can't trust him. And that's a HUGE problem.

And trust me when I say that if you keep getting upset about these things, when in reality, they could amount to absolutely nothing, you're are DEFINITELY going to push him away. I've been the one who's been pushed away before, and it really gets annoying when you have someone questioning every move you make.

[Gretchen W]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

The only way that you should be concerned is if all of the nice things he does for her, he's ONLY doing for her.

If he walks her out to her car when it's dark, and he walks you out to your car when it's dark, then there shouldn't be a problem. If he's only doing it for her, then you should be concerned.

I love my boyfriend dearly, and he is quite possibly the greatest thing to happen to me. And what makes me even more attracted to him is that in addition to doing nice things for me, he does nice things for other people.. and for girls!

He has a class with one of my sorority sisters, and when she missed a class one day, he asked me for her number so that he could call her, tell her what she missed, copy the assignment for her, and go over it with her so she knew what was going on. That doesn't make me jealous. It makes me happy that I'm lucky enough to be with someone who's so incredibly nice!

And my bf has other girls that like him. I know that. Who wouldn't?! haha. But even if a girl is flirting with him, I KNOW that he loves me. And even if he "flirts" a little back, I know that it won't amount to anything.

If you can't trust that, then you can't trust him. And that's a HUGE problem.

And trust me when I say that if you keep getting upset about these things, when in reality, they could amount to absolutely nothing, you're are DEFINITELY going to push him away. I've been the one who's been pushed away before, and it really gets annoying when you have someone questioning every move you make.

He's not the one to open doors for women or anything, not even me. I don't think anything is bad about that, that's just him. I don't mind him walking her to her car at night, but does he have to talk to her for 15-20 minutes at a time? Flirting? I don't know if he is or isn't. I hear them laughing and giggling in his study room sometimes. I wouldn't call it flirting. I don't know what they're doing, I just don't like it. Our wedding is scheduled for August of next year, and I'm having 2nd thoughts about it.