Is mutual selection really mutual?

[ComradesTrue]

Since everyone has done a nice job of answering RN3s questions, may I make a slight hijack?

Originally Posted by RusheeNumero3

Also. It's too late. I already rejected my bid. I got my bid at 10 and we had to decide by noon. And I didn't know what to do. I didn't want to go to bid day crying so I just went home.

Is this standard practice on many campuses? It has been over 15 years since I rushed, but if I recall correctly we had 24 hours to decide whether to accept a bid. That allowed the emotions to calm down a bit, disappointed girls time to compose themselves, and even some the chance to "sleep on things." PNMs could also call and talk to family, etc.

Bid Day was at 4:30 and so the PNMs had that evening and then most of the next day to make up their minds. Was it common for someone to take 24 hours? No, but there were definitely times when it took more than 2 hours, and every year there were a few that accepted thier bids the next morning.

Anyway, it just seems that with a mere 2 hour window that exactly what happened with this PNM would happen. Emotions are running high, fear that people would see that she had been crying, etc I think would sway many of them to just go back to the dorm.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Blondie93

Is this standard practice on many campuses? It has been over 15 years since I rushed, but if I recall correctly we had 24 hours to decide whether to accept a bid. That allowed the emotions to calm down a bit, disappointed girls time to compose themselves, and even some the chance to "sleep on things." PNMs could also call and talk to family, etc.

Bid Day was at 4:30 and so the PNMs had that evening and then most of the next day to make up their minds. Was it common for someone to take 24 hours? No, but there were definitely times when it took more than 2 hours, and every year there were a few that accepted thier bids the next morning.

Anyway, it just seems that with a mere 2 hour window that exactly what happened with this PNM would happen. Emotions are running high, fear that people would see that she had been crying, etc I think would sway many of them to just go back to the dorm.

Oh heck, I didn't even see that. I know when we handed out open bids they had 24 hours, but I can't remember what the timeframe was in formal rush - but Blondie, I think you're probably right.

Oh and SureSister, please go elsewhere and plug your blog - to say to a rushee who is upset "they won't be able to resist you next year" is absolutely deplorable and shows you know NOTHING about rush.

[SureSister]

KSUViolet06:

You are right about the “resist” sentence. Thank you for pointing it out so diplomatically. I have corrected the post.

However, I'm sure you would agree that the steps I mentioned wouldn't hurt her chances in next years' recruitment. I don't know of any sorority that is seeking new members with low grades, low involvement, immaturity, and a poor attitude. Maybe it would be good to generate some discussion about what a freshman should do if she knows that she wants to participate in recruitment next year. It's certainly a different situation from a high school senior starting her senior year, right?

33girl:

1. What blog? I did not point you to a blog.
2. I'm not sure why you would write something like that when I probably know something. I contributed to the thread to try to help the OP. I didn't insult, criticize or demean any other GCer, GLO, or do anything out out of line. I don't really feel that I deserved such a response...

Originally Posted by SureSister

33girl:

1. What blog? I did not point you to a blog.
2. I'm not sure why you would write something like that when I probably know something. I contributed to the thread to try to help the OP. I didn't insult, criticize or demean any other GCer, GLO, or do anything out out of line. I don't really feel that I deserved such a response...

OH QUIT PLAYING STUPID.

You had your muxgo blog promoting that stupid book in your damn signature FOR WEEKS.

To refresh your memory, a cached view of your signature.

[Benzgirl]

Originally Posted by OTW

OH QUIT PLAYING STUPID.

You had your muxgo blog promoting that stupid book in your damn signature FOR WEEKS.

To refresh your memory, a cached view of your signature.

Oh, lovely.

[ASUADPi]

Originally Posted by OTW

OH QUIT PLAYING STUPID.

You had your muxgo blog promoting that stupid book in your damn signature FOR WEEKS.

To refresh your memory, a cached view of your signature.

Was this really necessary?

Originally Posted by ASUADPi

Was this really necessary?

Your post doesn't surprise me. Feel free to put me on ignore.

SureSister promoted her blog (advertising a book) in her signature for weeks. Stealth marketers really piss me off.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by SureSister

KSUViolet06:

You are right about the “resist” sentence. Thank you for pointing it out so diplomatically. I have corrected the post.

However, I'm sure you would agree that the steps I mentioned wouldn't hurt her chances in next years' recruitment.

I agree that it most likely doesn't hurt you to be involved, but it does not guarantee you anything. Every chapter is looking for different things.

[SureSister]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I agree that it most likely doesn't hurt you to be involved, but it does not guarantee you anything. Every chapter is looking for different things.

Oh yes, it definitely doesn't guarantee anything. But we are always trying to stack the deck in our favor, so to speak. Recruitment, job interviews, dating, climbing the corporate ladder, etc.

[joliebelle]

Originally Posted by Blondie93

Since everyone has done a nice job of answering RN3s questions, may I make a slight hijack?




Is this standard practice on many campuses? It has been over 15 years since I rushed, but if I recall correctly we had 24 hours to decide whether to accept a bid. That allowed the emotions to calm down a bit, disappointed girls time to compose themselves, and even some the chance to "sleep on things." PNMs could also call and talk to family, etc.

Bid Day was at 4:30 and so the PNMs had that evening and then most of the next day to make up their minds. Was it common for someone to take 24 hours? No, but there were definitely times when it took more than 2 hours, and every year there were a few that accepted thier bids the next morning.

Anyway, it just seems that with a mere 2 hour window that exactly what happened with this PNM would happen. Emotions are running high, fear that people would see that she had been crying, etc I think would sway many of them to just go back to the dorm.

For our recruitment this year, our bid lists are due at 3 and bid day begins at 5. To me this means that the PNMs have less than 2 hours to basically make what could potentially be a life changing decision.

I didn't go through formal recruitment, I COB'ed, but I was told that I had 24 hours to accept or decline