I Don't Date Outside of My Race...

[lovehaiku84]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

Thanks everyone. I learned things I didn't know before. I understand racism exist and will always exist, but it's not right. I really don't want to read any books on the issue of why black women don't like women of other skin colors dating black men, because it doesn't matter who wrote the book, or the fact that it's in a book. It's still wrong on every level. We're all human beings. We're all genetically made up the same. I guess I'll have to go on clueless of why this is. I think it's very sad that some men would date a woman because he thinks her race is better than another one. How can someone look at another person and say I don't like him/her because his/her skin color is not like mine? When I watch the presidential debates, I often wonder what it would be like if we couldn't see who was running for office, but could only hear their voices. I wonder who would win? That's another topic though.

I'll continue having my own opinion on this issue, because to me a good man is a good man. I don't care what color he is. Personal preference is one thing, but just to say I can't date him or her because he/she is not of the same color is wrong. I won't use race, because there's only one race, the human race. I'll just use skin or color, because that's all it is to me.

I'm glad that you learned something, however if you have no interest in picking up a book to find the answers to your questions, or to gain a better understanding of the issue at hand, I think you need to refrain from asking any more questions on this board. I think that it's very easy to play all innocent like "well why would someone do XYZ?" and "we are all the same." Please. We are NOT all the same. We DO tend to experience the world differently based on the color of our skin, and there are cultural differences which are often connected with race. And all of that is just fine because beauty can be found in all of that. If everyone were the same the world would be incredibly boring. What I don't understand is why some people have such a hard time accepting that there are things/issues in this country and globally that are simply ugly/hard to talk about. Pretending to be clueless about them and then choosing to remain ignorant about them does not help anything.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

I really don't want to read any books on the issue of why black women don't like women of other skin colors dating black men, because it doesn't matter who wrote the book, or the fact that it's in a book. It's still wrong on every level. We're all human beings. We're all genetically made up the same. I guess I'll have to go on clueless of why this is.

I'll continue having my own opinion on this issue, because to me a good man is a good man. I don't care what color he is.

Cheerful--now, there is a historical context to what I say. I am not grabbing this shit outta my azz. It is real. 40 years ago, most Black women were working in a white woman's house, if they were not teachers, like my mother... And what happened in those houses were unspeakable to young, sometimes teen Black girls... Because a certain incident happened to my own mother that told her NOT to become a nurse or a maid...

I will be 40 years old in September...

Have "thangs" changed that much? For some women, they have not. You can look at the stats, but Black women in America rank the lowest in most of the health care issues in the spectrum. In fact, Black women in America are the highest group to be infected with HIV/AIDS... How can that happen in a 1st world country like the US?

Most of us have questions on "intent". Because, I cannot tell my Black male loved ones to do certain things--namely drive a hot car or vehicle in certain places for the fear they might get beaten down by dumbassed cops. Or recommend absentee voting ballots for the fear they will get kicked out of the voter's poll--something like that happened to my husband because the poll worker was an idiot.

So, pardon my reservations about dating "intent" and maybe I need to get over it, but I don't see that many caucasian women helping the hood rats out cleaning the streets when there is injustice going on toward the crimes against black folks... I cannot tell you how many times I have been harrassesed at a Department Store to the point where I hate shopping now...

All of those ill feelings unfortunately get conjured up when I see a "useless" brother dating a bimbo whose only intention is stereotypical...

Now, there are some young ladies here who date and have married brothers who are extremely intelligent by what they say and their track record in life. Of course, I am not talking about these women. Because really, if my brother had stayed with the Summa Cum Laude Lawyer, I would be happy as a lark. However, he wanted bootay and I am left wondering if these women KNOW that about him? And if they did, how come they want to trap him with babies? 'Cuz it's not like he has that much moolah...

But that's just me... We can take this to PM if you want...

Originally Posted by lovehaiku84

What I don't understand is why some people have such a hard time accepting that there are things/issues in this country and globally that are simply ugly/hard to talk about. Pretending to be clueless about them and then choosing to remain ignorant about them does not help anything.

Valder... Let it go and breathe... Things will be revealed in good time.