I hate my boyfriend's fraternity

[AlethiaSi]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

I would've dumped him years ago.

Yeah, but thats you though... I mean no matter what we think, we ALL have been in relationships that went on too long, for whatever reason, and they weren't always good for us.
Gem- i can see what you mean about not being "able" to, in regards to fraternity , perhaps the order of things, etc but Alphafrog is right, it is a matter of what is more important to him. Especially if you have stepped in and said something to him and he KNOWS that it bothers you. I would take those kinds of things into consideration.
Will we always get along with our significant others' friends? no not necessarily, but having the strength to stand up to them and not having your partner at least respect your wishes and back you up, can be a serious problem.
I mean would this happen whether a fraternity was involved or not? I'm not sure, if anything, I would think that they'd be more respectful, but not always, like in my case with my ex.

I would try to talk to him, let him know how you feel... and perhaps youmight just have to hit the wall where you can't take it anymore. Three years is a long time, but if you're being treated like that and he's not making as much of an effort to do things that you both want to do... then really... what is the use of holding on to a past that may or may not repeat itself?
good luck! let us know how things go!

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by AlethiaSi

Yeah, but thats you though... I mean no matter what we think, we ALL have been in relationships that went on too long, for whatever reason, and they weren't always good for us.

I believe I did type "I would've."

I have never been in a long term relationship that lasted too long. I am quick to end meaningless wastes of time before it hits the 1 year mark.

More than that, I would never ask for opinions from friends, family, or random people on the internet if these opinions don't/won't count for anything. Keep it to yourself if you want to be able to process it all and act on your own.

[AlethiaSi]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

I believe I did type "I would've."

I have never been in a long term relationship that lasted too long. I am quick to end meaningless wastes of time before it hits the 1 year mark.

More than that, I would never ask for opinions from friends, family, or random people on the internet if these opinions don't/won't count for anything. Keep it to yourself if you want to be able to process it all and act on your own.

i didn't mean it like that. i'm sorry for the confusion, i just meant in general, including myself, b/c i feel exactly the same way (and i have learned to do the same thing, meaning ending a relationship b/c i did waste my time after too long)