Playas till the day we die...

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by NinjaPoodle

ETA:
I should clarify that I see control issues with a person who need to run everything. They feel like they need to be validated by being the one in control. Man or woman

Soror, would it be the same thing if your children were adult, and they offered to take care of you?



Interesting that you think this(bolded text).
I'm SUPER picky also and what I find is that men that I have dissmissed (because essentially that's what I did) couldnt step up to the plate. I found that their egos were so fragile, and they were so worried about what their friends would say about their "manhood" and not focus on the actual relationship, that they never had sight of what was really important. To me, they were weak.

I could care less what my friends think. I think a man that's content with his woman runnin' the show, is a weak man, and she's stupid as hell for taking care of his lazy no good a$$.

[NinjaPoodle]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I could care less what my friends think. I think a man that's content with his woman runnin' the show, is a weak man, and she's stupid as hell for taking care of his lazy no good a$$.

Well, at least we agree on something!

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by NinjaPoodle

Well, at least we agree on something!

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[PrettyBoy]

Today I was sitting next to one of my co-workers at work and he was telling about this girl who he had been seeing. They had been seeing each other for about 3 months. When he 1st met her he came to work telling me about her and showing me pictures. Very pretty girl. About a month went by and he comes back to work telling me he got the draws. Every week he would tell me he slept with her again and again. I had no probelm with that. Well, today is what got me mad. He told me that he broke up with her, and he had planned it for about 3 weeks. He started to distance himself from her to the point where she actually broke it off with him. That's what he wanted because he didn't want to be the one with the guilt. Well to make a long story short, I asked him why did he want to break it off with her? He told me because she started wanting to spend too much time with him. He said she wanted too much attention and that it was too much work.

See this is what I'm talking about. This goes all the way back to my fraternity brother's original post. It's going to keep getting worse and worse. None of these jokers are going to stop hoin' around. My co-worker told me they decided to be friends. Then he said he's going to keep screwin' her but as friends. How can someone screw a friend? This FWB (friends with benefits) crap is a never ending new thing. Where did it come from? Who started this mess? Here's what I think. The government should open up a player concentration camp and gather up all the cheaters, hoes, and players and throw them in there, that way they can screw each other and leave the committed people alone. Either that, or throw them in a big dumpster and have the Waste Management truck pick them up and dump them in a landfill with all the other trash.

[mulattogyrl]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Here's what I think. The government should open up a player concentration camp and gather up all the cheaters, hoes, and players and throw them in there, that way they can screw each other and leave the committed people alone. Either that, or throw them in a big dumpster and have the Waste Management truck pick them up and dump them in a landfill with all the other trash.

LOL! For some reason, this made me laugh.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by mulattogyrl

LOL! For some reason, this made me laugh.

It may sound funny, but I really do see people like that as garbage. Seriously. I hate that FWB crap.

[pinkies up]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

He told me that he broke up with her, and he had planned it for about 3 weeks. He started to distance himself from her to the point where she actually broke it off with him. That's what he wanted because he didn't want to be the one with the guilt. Well to make a long story short, I asked him why did he want to break it off with her? He told me because she started wanting to spend too much time with him. He said she wanted too much attention and that it was too much work.

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Wow. This is what happens when people don't tell one another where they stand in the beginning of relationships and are honest about it. I don't believe that all women are "blind" to the fact they can't spot a hoe. It comes with the woman setting standards first and then both being open about the relationship. If all she wants is a FWB and he does too, then hand claps for then, but if they aren't on the same page then of course things like this will happen. I know from experience. With my first relationship, all kinds of bells and whistles went off, but I didn't listen. Yes, he was a dog but I was the stupid one for contining to lie down with him and get the fleas.

[OneTimeSBX]

Originally Posted by pinkies up

Wow. This is what happens when people don't tell one another where they stand in the beginning of relationships and are honest about it.

this is what it all boils down to!!!!

like i said to NinjaPoodle, DON'T BE UNEQUALLY YOKED! let that man know ahead of time, let your woman know before it gets serious. give that other person a chance to decide what they want!

[357Nupe]

Originally Posted by OneTimeSBX

this is what it all boils down to!!!!

like i said to NinjaPoodle, DON'T BE UNEQUALLY YOKED! let that man know ahead of time, let your woman know before it gets serious. give that other person a chance to decide what they want!

I agree with you but, I have experienced times (well before I met my wife) when I thought their was clear understanding that the relationship was not going to get serious and have still had to answer the where is this relationship going question. To which I responded, the same place we agreed it was going when we started it, no where. There are some big differences between what men and women (women and men, sorry Ninjapoodle didn't mean to put the man first) mean when the agreement is this is just a physical thing.

[NinjaPoodle]

Originally Posted by pinkies up

Wow. This is what happens when people don't tell one another where they stand in the beginning of relationships and are honest about it.

Totally agree.

[NinjaPoodle]

It's interesting that the people responding to this thread have been majority christian. Is there anyone who (besides me) is not Christian that has an opinion? It just seems very one sided..or not hetrosexual? Some other viewpoint would be interesting.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by pinkies up

Wow. This is what happens when people don't tell one another where they stand in the beginning of relationships and are honest about it. I don't believe that all women are "blind" to the fact they can't spot a hoe. It comes with the woman setting standards first and then both being open about the relationship. If all she wants is a FWB and he does too, then hand claps for then, but if they aren't on the same page then of course things like this will happen. I know from experience. With my first relationship, all kinds of bells and whistles went off, but I didn't listen. Yes, he was a dog but I was the stupid one for contining to lie down with him and get the fleas.

It doesn't matter. A woman can tell a low down joker where she stands until she's blue in the face, all he's going to do is agree, act like he's down with the same committed program, hang around until he gets the nookie, bang it a few times, find a new woman and break out as soon as he feels he has to do some work to keep the relationship alive. That lazy bastard. So it doesn't matter. Remember, all he wants to do is see how many women he can leave standing there with their panties around their ankles. Trifling, low down, no good, nookie stealing joker.

[OneTimeSBX]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

It doesn't matter. A woman can tell a low down joker where she stands until she's blue in the face, all he's going to do is agree, act like he's down with the same committed program, hang around until he gets the nookie, bang it a few times, find a new woman and break out as soon as he feels he has to do some work to keep the relationship alive. That lazy bastard. So it doesn't matter. Remember, all he wants to do is see how many women he can leave standing there with their panties around their ankles. Trifling, low down, no good, nookie stealing joker.

if some of these women would keep the nookie to themselves, or at least be picky about who gets it, we could give these jokers time to "expose" themselves for who they are! lets face it tho, some of y'all are Oscar-calibur actors lol! and where some men are too lazy to put in work, maybe the problem is we need to learn how to put in a little less...?

[NinjaPoodle]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

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So I spoke to a friend of mine (a Kappa) who is close to being clergy. I told him about this thread and your comments. Since all I wanted to know was WHY, I asked him what he thought from a Christian point of view, since this is where you were coming from. He said the exact same things you did all the way down the CEO examples!! Now I understand your point however I still don’t agree with it and never will. Like I originally said, I have issues with organized religion and them telling people how and what to think. While I do believe in God, I am not a Christian and thus have a problem with the whole hierarchy thing. That’s just me. I see woman and man standing together in front of God as one unit and not God, Jesus, Man then Woman. Also, I have recently decided to search for a man instead of “letting him find me”. That’s how my previous relationships started. The ones that didn’t work.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by NinjaPoodle

So I spoke to a friend of mine (a Kappa) who is close to being clergy. I told him about this thread and your comments. Since all I wanted to know was WHY, I asked him what he thought from a Christian point of view, since this is where you were coming from. He said the exact same things you did all the way down the CEO examples!! Now I understand your point however I still don’t agree with it and never will. Like I originally said, I have issues with organized religion and them telling people how and what to think. While I do believe in God, I am not a Christian and thus have a problem with the whole hierarchy thing. That’s just me. I see woman and man standing together in front of God as one unit and not God, Jesus, Man then Woman. Also, I have recently decided to search for a man instead of “letting him find me”. That’s how my previous relationships started. The ones that didn’t work.

You remind me of my sister, the only difference is she's a Christian and anti-greek. Other than you being greek, she would agree with you totally.