Playas till the day we die... - Page 10

357Nupe · #**136** 07-18-2007, 04:21 PM

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Originally Posted by 1908Revelations

I agree!

Say what!

Not saying that all AKA's are bossy just all the AKA's I know are bossy.

raggann03 · #**137** 07-18-2007, 08:09 PM

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Originally Posted by OneTimeSBX

whoo lord, i went home last night and called my DADDY about this thread.
i explained the several differing views on here, and this is what he had to say...

the biblical stand point is this. the definition in the bible of a wife being submissive includes him heading the household and making THE BEST CHRISTIAN DECISIONS, and also dying for his wife. now, going by that definition, a lot of christian women wouldnt mind that set up. my dad said that he never does anything without my mom's input. ever. BUT there come times when he backs down because he knows how she feels, and vice versa. this all depends on one key element: A GOOD CHRISTIAN MAN.

Daddy also agreed with what i said earlier in this thread: part of heading a household (or as PrettyBoy compared it to a company) is prepping a substitute or successor. Dad may run the house, but mom can step up as well, ive seen her do it many times if he was away for work. in this case, he feels comfortable letting her do her thing without interfering in certain areas.

ALSO...he said that YES a lot of men take advantage of this role. men who dont even go to church feel that they should head a household in a biblical sense. in this case (not that they are bad husbands) he said he would be reluctant to be anything less than equals with him. Submission is probably where a lot of us women have the problem...the word sounds domineering. in the right situation, it truly is a walk together with a "speaker of the house" if you will.

Exactly!!

PrettyBoy · #**138** 07-19-2007, 12:28 AM

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Originally Posted by NinjaPoodle

Well, at least we agree on something!

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PrettyBoy · #**139** 07-19-2007, 12:43 AM

Today I was sitting next to one of my co-workers at work and he was telling about this girl who he had been seeing. They had been seeing each other for about 3 months. When he 1st met her he came to work telling me about her and showing me pictures. Very pretty girl. About a month went by and he comes back to work telling me he got the draws. Every week he would tell me he slept with her again and again. I had no probelm with that. Well, today is what got me mad. He told me that he broke up with her, and he had planned it for about 3 weeks. He started to distance himself from her to the point where she actually broke it off with him. That's what he wanted because he didn't want to be the one with the guilt. Well to make a long story short, I asked him why did he want to break it off with her? He told me because she started wanting to spend too much time with him. He said she wanted too much attention and that it was too much work.

See this is what I'm talking about. This goes all the way back to my fraternity brother's original post. It's going to keep getting worse and worse. None of these jokers are going to stop hoin' around. My co-worker told me they decided to be friends. Then he said he's going to keep screwin' her but as friends. How can someone screw a friend? This FWB (friends with benefits) crap is a never ending new thing. Where did it come from? Who started this mess? Here's what I think. The government should open up a player concentration camp and gather up all the cheaters, hoes, and players and throw them in there, that way they can screw each other and leave the committed people alone. Either that, or throw them in a big dumpster and have the Waste Management truck pick them up and dump them in a landfill with all the other trash.

NinjaPoodle · #**140** 07-19-2007, 01:40 AM

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

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So I spoke to a friend of mine (a Kappa) who is close to being clergy. I told him about this thread and your comments. Since all I wanted to know was WHY, I asked him what he thought from a Christian point of view, since this is where you were coming from. He said the exact same things you did all the way down the CEO examples!!

Now I understand your point however I still don’t agree with it and never will. Like I originally said, I have issues with organized religion and them telling people how and what to think. While I do believe in God, I am not a Christian and thus have a problem with the whole hierarchy thing. That’s just me. I see woman and man standing together in front of God as one unit and not God, Jesus, Man then Woman. Also, I have recently decided to search for a man instead of “letting him find me”. That’s how my previous relationships started. The ones that didn’t work.

NinjaPoodle · #**141** 07-19-2007, 01:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Senusret I

Wow...... I'm glad I stay out of the heterocentric threads..... y'all be having voodoo curses and everything up and through here!

lol!

NinjaPoodle · #**142** 07-19-2007, 02:01 AM

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Originally Posted by 357Nupe

Maybe your choices are just finding you the wrong man(boy) but from what I have read in this thread when the right MAN finds you, all your control, and 50/50 stuff will not matter you two will compliment each other to the point that the struggle for power will end and the one mindedness of love will set in and you will find yourself in the role you and your husband agree is best for the your family. (Damn I think I just said something deep but I could be wrong, nope my wife said that was a good one)

Nope, I'm going to find him. All of my other relationships were the result of him finding me. I need to find what I consider acceptable. But everything else, yes sort of, because there will not be a struggle for power. I don't subscribe to that.

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No one is getting puffed up, I thought we were having a disscusion

, which involves a back and forth exchange of ideas. But if someone is getting puffed up, maybe this will prove to some women that men are not just looking for sex, but we also have a depth of emotions that women might want to tap into.

It's hard to tap into it when guys put on a front.

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Also it makes a difference to me because what we are talking about is how relationships are affecting black people and weather married or single that is something that I will always chime in on.

You are right, I respect that.

NinjaPoodle · #**143** 07-19-2007, 02:21 AM

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Originally Posted by OneTimeSBX

NinjaPoodle: giiiirl, i feel you on so many levels. it is definately refreshing to see women who can hold their own. if you feel certain parts dont affect you, then do you! my daddy said just to make sure you are equally yolked...i hope you find that man who is so on point, you can sit back and enjoy the ride!!

Thanks, me too.

mulattogyrl · #**144** 07-19-2007, 08:34 AM

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Here's what I think. The government should open up a player concentration camp and gather up all the cheaters, hoes, and players and throw them in there, that way they can screw each other and leave the committed people alone. Either that, or throw them in a big dumpster and have the Waste Management truck pick them up and dump them in a landfill with all the other trash.

LOL! For some reason, this made me laugh.

mulattogyrl · #**145** 07-19-2007, 08:36 AM

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Originally Posted by 357Nupe

Maybe your choices are just finding you the wrong man(boy) but from what I have read in this thread when the right MAN finds you, all your control, and 50/50 stuff will not matter you two will compliment each other to the point that the struggle for power will end and the one mindedness of love will set in and you will find yourself in the role you and your husband agree is best for the your family. (Damn I think I just said something deep but I could be wrong, nope my wife said that was a good one)

Your wife is right.

Very well said.

pinkies up · #**146** 07-19-2007, 09:11 AM

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

He told me that he broke up with her, and he had planned it for about 3 weeks. He started to distance himself from her to the point where she actually broke it off with him. That's what he wanted because he didn't want to be the one with the guilt. Well to make a long story short, I asked him why did he want to break it off with her? He told me because she started wanting to spend too much time with him. He said she wanted too much attention and that it was too much work.

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Wow. This is what happens when people don't tell one another where they stand in the beginning of relationships and are honest about it. I don't believe that all women are "blind" to the fact they can't spot a hoe. It comes with the woman setting standards first and then both being open about the relationship. If all she wants is a FWB and he does too, then hand claps for then, but if they aren't on the same page then of course things like this will happen. I know from experience. With my first relationship, all kinds of bells and whistles went off, but I didn't listen. Yes, he was a dog but I was the stupid one for contining to lie down with him and get the fleas.

OneTimeSBX · #**147** 07-19-2007, 10:19 AM

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Originally Posted by pinkies up

Wow. This is what happens when people don't tell one another where they stand in the beginning of relationships and are honest about it.

this is what it all boils down to!!!!

like i said to NinjaPoodle, DON'T BE UNEQUALLY YOKED! let that man know ahead of time, let your woman know before it gets serious. give that other person a chance to decide what they want!

NinjaPoodle · #**148** 07-19-2007, 12:54 PM

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Originally Posted by pinkies up

Wow. This is what happens when people don't tell one another where they stand in the beginning of relationships and are honest about it.

Totally agree.

NinjaPoodle · #**149** 07-19-2007, 01:03 PM

It's interesting that the people responding to this thread have been majority christian. Is there anyone who (besides me) is not Christian that has an opinion? It just seems very one sided..or not hetrosexual? Some other viewpoint would be interesting.

357Nupe · #**150** 07-19-2007, 02:34 PM

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Originally Posted by OneTimeSBX

this is what it all boils down to!!!!

like i said to NinjaPoodle, DON'T BE UNEQUALLY YOKED! let that man know ahead of time, let your woman know before it gets serious. give that other person a chance to decide what they want!

I agree with you but, I have experienced times (well before I met my wife) when I thought their was clear understanding that the relationship was not going to get serious and have still had to answer the where is this relationship going question. To which I responded, the same place we agreed it was going when we started it, no where. There are some big differences between what men and women (women and men, sorry Ninjapoodle didn't mean to put the man first

) mean when the agreement is this is just a physical thing.