I think one key would be for the individual who is rushing the PNM to make a special point of telling her that she is so happy to have another chance to spend with her - another opportunity to share the sisterhood that has meant so much to her.
HTH -
__________________ Gamma Phi Beta Courtesy is owed, respect is earned, love is given. Proud daughter AND mother of a Gamma Phi. 3 generations of love, labor, learning and loyalty.