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Originally Posted by 33girl
I think that's horrible. Especially the part that council (I assume you're talking about your chapter exec board/council, not your national council) and advisor didn't let the chapter vote. That's messed up in ANY bid situation, good or bad outcome.
Then again, if she would have been the ONLY girl in the chapter who didn't look like a model, she would have had to put up with the whispers behind her back of "She only got a bid because she's a legacy! Isn't it obvious?!" and that would have worn on her self esteem too. Especially if she wasn't able to make good friends among some of the other sisters.
Did her sister stay active?
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I appreciate your input as well as that of 'Drolefille' and 'xoheatherxo'. It's pathetic, but for years I've wondered if I over-reacted. I guess I didn't though.
In hindsight, I think they might not have brought it to a chapter vote to avoid a fight. I have to believe that I wouldn't have been the only one to speak up about it being a horrible reason to cut the girl and incredibly shallow. I'm certain it would have gotten ugly though. Inevitably, there would have been someone (at least one if not more) who would have insisted that we had an image to protect and she would have been cut anyway.
As it stands, I can't be sure if it was our entire chapter council or just one or two members of it that had objections. I'll never know who was behind it. I guess, for that, I'm glad.
My chapter wasn't all Barbie Dolls but I'd have to admit that there
were a lot of really pretty girls. We were fairly diverse though too. (Hell,
I got in and I'm no Barbie Doll.) I think if she had been extended a bid things
in general would have been fine for her. On the other hand, I wouldn't have been surprised if a few girls would have avoided her and even resented her for "ruining our image". She would have felt it and it would have hurt.
I'm not really sure what happened to her older sister. I just looked her up in our Alumnae Directory and she's listed so at least I know she didn't resign. I have no idea how it affected her relationship with the chapter though. It was only 2 or 3 weeks later that I took alumna status and was out of there.
It's sad though. It's sad when too much pressure is put on a legacy. It's sad that she couldn't stick with Recruitment anyway and find happiness in another chapter. I'm sure being cut from her legacy house was a huge crush to her ego. The whole thing is just plain sad.
Okay, I really have been babbling. I've never spoken about this to anyone and I guess I had a lot of bottled up feelings about it. I wouldn't ordinarily want to air KD's dirty laundry, but I think everyone here already knows that what happened in one chapter years ago doesn't reflect on the sorority as a whole.
Thanks for 'listening'.
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