another wedding thread...bridesmaids questions

[xo_kathy]

I had 3 - well, 4 I guess...I had a MOH and 2 bridesmaids, then DH's daughter was a Jr. Bridesmaid. He had 2 best men so one of the best men escorted the Jr. Bridesmaid. I would have preferred not having the whole "jr" thing, but guess I couldn't not do it...she's his kid and all... I didn't pick based on any set formula - I have 1 best friend and 2 women who I'm still close with since elementary school so it was obviously them.

Quite frankly, I couldn't imagine having more than that. I still got drama with only 3 (ok, it was only from one of them) so I'd never want to increase that!

In terms of paying, I think most women when they agree to being a BM think they will have to pay for the dress, accessories and alterations. I personally think if a bride makes all of them get their hair and make-up done the same, she shouldpay for that. I also think it's ridiculous to expect everyone to get Vera Wang bridesmaid dresses and Jimmy Choo shoes.

I personally paid for a little more for one of bridesmaids b/c I knew her financial situation and I could afford it. For the one who flew in with her husband, I paid the hotel for the night of the wedding. And for my MOH I paid for her hair as an extra gift for being such a great friend. It's all really up to you are what your budget dictates.

[ASUADPi]

Originally Posted by xo_kathy

In terms of paying, I think most women when they agree to being a BM think they will have to pay for the dress, accessories and alterations. I personally think if a bride makes all of them get their hair and make-up done the same, she shouldpay for that. I also think it's ridiculous to expect everyone to get Vera Wang bridesmaid dresses and Jimmy Choo shoes.

I think my friend actually made us pay for out own hair, as if we had a choice in the matter, we had to get our hair done. In fact, now I remember, I did have to pay for my own hair. Her mom paid for her sister, who was one of the MOH's. My friend was on a serious budget but she really wanted us to go "all out". Whatever. It was five years ago and we don't even keep in touch anymore.

[PM_Mama00]

I was a flower girl in a wedding when I was younger. My brother was in the wedding. ALL my cousins were in the wedding... I have a lot of cousins. It was a double wedding (2 sisters got married on the same day) and I believe there were 14 girls on each side, and 14 guys on each side. Plus 3 sets of flowergirls/ring bearers on each side. It was a HUGE wedding. We paid for our dresses and I think they bought us the pearls that we wore? We also all had hair pieces and carried decorated fans... total 80s wedding. I think all we paid for was the dresses though.

[angelic1]

Originally Posted by xo_kathy

In terms of paying, I think most women when they agree to being a BM think they will have to pay for the dress, accessories and alterations. I personally think if a bride makes all of them get their hair and make-up done the same, she shouldpay for that. I also think it's ridiculous to expect everyone to get Vera Wang bridesmaid dresses and Jimmy Choo shoes.

Agree here. I am fine with (and except to) pay for my dress and stuff when someone asks me to be in their wedding. However, I do not plan to send tons of money on a dress and shoes I will never wear again. I had this happen for a wedding I was in, and then I couldn't be in my other close friend's (became engaged a few months later) wedding.

As for the bridesmaid (not engaged, yet) situation... I will be forced with 6 as a minimum. I have two brothers, he has three, and then his best friend. A las only one sister in the group.