What would raise a yellow, or red flag on a 1st date for you?

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by Dionysus

I so agree with you PrettyBoy about family. What's the point of picking a decent guy/girl if they have a really really fucked up family? Unless they aren't close to their family at all, it's very easy for their family's drama to spill over into your relationship. I've witnessed this way too many times, and have even experienced it once. I once dropped a guy I really liked only after dating two or three weeks, because I couldn't handle the drama from his thug assed brother. I WILL NOT put up with having to pool money to bail someone out of jail, having my things stolen, letting family members live and freeload of us, fearing our personal safety if a family member is violent, and so on.

That's it! You hit the nail on the head. Once I find out her family is the least bit opposite of mine, I mean, it can just be one thing. ...There will not be a 2nd date. We can be friends and that's it. Nothing else. I've told women this too. I let them know up front after they started showing me that they want more. I just told them our backgrounds are too different. So far I have a friend I like a lot, she's really nice, and our backgrounds are very similar. Everything seems cool so far .

[1908Revelations]

The last time I went out with a guy, I didn't really like the guy, but I decided to go. Well his breath was kung-fu fighting and he was staring at me the whole time during the movie! I thought what was too weird. He wouldn't look away, so I thought I had food in my teeth. He wanted to hold my hand and he was being waaaayyyy to clingy....this was the first and last time we went out.....I refuse to call it a date

[ΑΓΔSquirrel10]

I went out to lunch with this guy I met at college at the beginning of my freshmen year. We had talked before, and I thought he was very a cool guy, I really enjoyed talking to him, so I agreed to meet him for lunch one day. Well, I have NO IDEA what happened to him, but several factors turned me off. The boy was SO NERVOUS that he ate 2 bites of his food before throwing it away. It's ok to be nervous, but he showed no signs of loosening up around me. That didn't bother me as much as his obsession with internet cartoons!!!!! He kept going on and on about them, and then he started QUOTING THEM.....IN CARTOON VOICES!!!!!! People at tables around us were kinda looking over at us with "wtf" looks on their faces. Ugh...soooo embarrassing!!!

[ZTAMich]

A red flag for me once was heavy smoking. The guy kept excusing himself to go outside & smoke. What really pissed me off wasn't the smoking but that he went out more than 2 times to smoke. I understand it's an addiction but have some manners!

[ZTAngel]

Personal attacks will not be tolerated. I don't care if her info is posted on the internet or elsewhere on GC. It won't be posted in my forum.

[Dionysus]

RE: Family, we just have to agree to disagree. If someone has a lot of family drama, there is something they can do about it, cut off or at least reduce contact with them. While I have not come from a super dysfunctional family myself, I wouldn't say that I came from a "Leave it to Beaver" one either, I don't think I'm really judging anyone. I had to reduce contact from a certain grandparent, because this person's drama was definately impacting my life. This is the main reason why someone's family background is so important to me, I don't want to go through drama again. If someone is closer enough to their drama-filled family, I don't see how it can NOT spill over into your relationship and your life.

Yellow Flags
*Has many ex-friends, and can walk away from any friendship without being sad.
*Strongly democrat

Red Flags
*Strongly republican, fortunately those kind of guys usually aren't attracted to me, but you'll never know...
*Appears to be boring AND doesn't want to do crap about it. Never left the state and has no desire to. Only likes one genre of music. Has no style. Whatever people, piercings and tattoos can be sexy, if they don't go overboard. I like goatees, I don't know a boring guy that has one. Does not want to go east of highway 270. Prefers a night in to a night out. Chooses to eat at Applebee's for our first date, LOL.
*Has no sense of humor. Easily offended. I'll ask them what's their favorite movies and comedians to find out their sense of humor. Everyone here on GC knows what my sense of humor is like, if someone doesn't like it, they can bounce!
*IS A WALKING STEREOTYPE OF THEIR RACE! No nerdy Asian guys. No angry black men. No whitebread white men.

Originally Posted by ZTAngel

Personal attacks will not be tolerated. I don't care if her info is posted on the internet or elsewhere on GC. It won't be posted in my forum.

Then they shall be posted elsewhere!

[KSUViolet06]

Red flags:

*Gets my number at the end of the date and has called me 5 times before I get home.

[christiangirl]

If he used "n$gger" at any point to anyone even as a joke...yellow flag. I generally don't like to hear people use it, no matter what race. If he used it directed at me: red flag. If he was a non-minority and used it at me: I wouldn't even say good bye as I headed out the door.