Being in a sorority while being gay

[DrPhil]

You may feel it is none of your concern but that isn't how the average person sees it. Whether people support LGBTQ rights or not, there are ways we express our social positions on a daily basis. This includes basic conversations.

Here is a basic conversation rooted in heterocentrism:
Sorority member: Are you familiar with this philanthropic event? We were presented with an award at the homecoming game.

Sorority aspirant: Indeed and I appreciate this excellent philanthropy. My boyfriend and I attended one of your service events last year and were at the homecoming game.

That was an unintentional or intentional announcement of (assumed) heterosexuality and traditional woman-man relationships. The same applies to ways in which people convey other group identifiers such as socioeconomic status and race.

I know that people are attempting inclusion and equality when they claim they don't care. But in reality it usually becomes more "don't ask don't tell" rather than real social inclusion. It is similar to when people claim racial inclusion and then say "I don't care ether way because we don't see race." That usually is a passive aggressive way of telling people to assimilate as much as possible and to shut up about whatever differentiates you from the rest of the group.