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Originally Posted by Kevin
On the other hand, I waited until after the first year of law school to get hitched to my now wife who I had been seeing at that point for 5-6 years and we've been married 7 years since then and are just fine.
Different strokes/different folks... and a 1/2 success rate for marriage in this day and age doesn't sound too bad. In fact, as a divorce attorney, I am very happy with that statistic.
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I think it's this: you can't really know who you are, as a real life, out-in-the-world adult until you are out in the world as an adult. The amount that people change in their mid-late twenties is substantial for most college grads. So, if you get married before that, you might get lucky, and change in ways that are compatible with how your partner is changing, and you can grow together and be terrifically happy.
But you might not get lucky, and you might find that your version of self-actualization doesn't fit with theirs, and you aren't happy together, and so on. And if that happens, of course you are going to look back and think "I never should have done that, I didn't know shit at 22".
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