Mother of Princeton men tells women they'd better get to marrying

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

I've got a novel idea...just don't get married. It's not the end all be all of life. Don't get me wrong. I love my husband, and we have an amazing relationship...BUT marriage is hard enough without settling for the random dude that is "good enough." So many marriages already fail with the best of intentions without walking in with lowered expectations.

I've now hit the age where my friends are divorcing in droves, and almost every one of them says they knew better than to marry their college boyfriend/girlfriend.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

I've now hit the age where my friends are divorcing in droves, and almost every one of them says they knew better than to marry their college boyfriend/girlfriend.

I know if I ever had to start dating again, I would have a totally different List of Qualities than I did at 20 when I met my husband. But, I also know some of those come from the experience of being married, and may never have crossed my mind even if I had stayed single til 30. Of course, some of them would have, because I now know at least somewhat what I want my life to look like outside of Academia. Honestly, it's not that much different than life inside Academia, but that's more my husband's issue than mine, since he thought once I was out of college, I'd stop acting/theatre stuff and concentrate of a "real" job.

Point being that you should have a realistic view of your post-college life before getting married. It's often not what you think it will be.