Mother of Princeton men tells women they'd better get to marrying

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by Old_Row

I agree! I hate how some people act like there's something wrong with you if you want to meet your future husband at college. I can't think of many better places to find educated men with a better possibility of being successful in life. You can be a feminist and want to get married and have your babies young. I think it is all about being free to make the choices that are right for you!

There is a big difference between "I am going to school to earn a degree and start my career and if I meet someone, that's a nice bonus" and "I am going to school to meet someone instead of having a career". The latter is problematic, for a whole bunch of reasons, the least of which is the consumption of educational resources for someone who never plans to use them.

[Old_Row]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

There is a big difference between "I am going to school to earn a degree and start my career and if I meet someone, that's a nice bonus" and "I am going to school to meet someone instead of having a career". The latter is problematic, for a whole bunch of reasons, the least of which is the consumption of educational resources for someone who never plans to use them.

I think it's very sad and unenlightened that you think the only people who deserve a college education are the ones planning on working outside the home.

[ADPiEE]

Originally Posted by Old_Row

I think it's very sad and unenlightened that you think the only people who deserve a college education are the ones planning on working outside the home.

There are large amounts of research that demonstrate that the level of education that a MOTHER attains has the most direct influence on the level of education that her children attain (as opposed to the father).

So, if you plan on having children, regardless of whether you plan to work outside the home or inside the home, my recommendation as someone with advanced degrees in Education would be to go to college

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by Old_Row

I think it's very sad and unenlightened that you think the only people who deserve a college education are the ones planning on working outside the home.

No, I think everyone deserves a college education. In my ideal world, everyone would be able to obtain a college education, and further, would be able to attend the type of elementary and high schools that prepare them for success at the university level.

However, we don't live in my ideal world, we live in a society with limited resources for higher education, and thus we have to make decisions on who does and does not get to go to college.

So, as a person who pays taxes that support both public and private universities throughout the country, and the financial aid that allows students to attend, I would prefer that the limited resources be allocated to those with ambitions toward a post-college career or other path that contributes to society beyond one's own family.

Granted, if you don't "work" outside the home, but volunteer or otherwise contribute strongly to your community, that's effectively the same thing, but there is a huge amount of intellectual capital lost when highly-educated women choose to leave the workforce.

But really, this all misses the larger point: regardless of what individual women choose to do with their lives, societal forces exist that push women out of the workplace and into the home, while similar forces don't exist for men. So if your goal is gender equality (and mine is) the question is not really "is it okay for women to go to college just to find a husband?", the question is "why do women do this and men don't?", and in this context of this article, why didn't this woman write the same thing to the men of Princeton?

[adpiucf]

I know that we should be learning for learning's sake, but I truly don't see the point of a college education if you don't plan to have a career "outside the home." It seems like a waste of time and money, but please understand that I'm coming at this from the perspective of someone who grew up in a blue collar family, was the first in my family to attend college, and financed my education with loans and scholarships. Why would I have gone to college and taken on that debt just to keep house? I'm all for the choice, but it is financially irresponsible to go to college unless you are paying cash or you plan to work off the debt.