Is it normal to regret which sorority you joined?
Now, I have nothing against my sorority on a national level... Our values are great and all, but the local chapter I am a part of is absolutely horrendous. It is the most abysmal excuse for a sisterhood I have ever seen. I have gone through some of the most difficult times of my life in the past six months, but no one has been there for me except for my roommate (who is in the same sorority). At the beginning of the school year, I put myself out there and tried to make new friends. But after an incident at home mid-fall, people weren't talking to me anymore. Nobody bothered to even text or call to ask how I was holding up.
It only got worse from there. I began struggling with depression, anorexia, and self-harm, but nobody noticed nor cared when I tried to bring up how down I had been. I thought sisters were supposed to be there for each other?
About mid-January, I realized I was pregnant, and told my roommate (and obviously my boyfriend). I had a feeling not to tell anyone else - I had a feeling something bad would happen. About a month later, I miscarried, and locked myself up in my room and cried for days. When I went to work, my coworkers were more concerned about me than my own sisters.
My roommate and I have talked about it so much - the sisterhood in our chapter is so miserable that it's actually pushed me to transfer schools. I'm so lonely, even though I live with 11 "sisters." At this rate, I'll honestly be surprised if the chapter makes it another two years. There are cliques, and everyone gossips about each other. We have had chapter discussions about the differences between gossiping about sisters and venting about sisters - and it's always pure, shallow gossip. I can't have a serious conversation with anyone except my roommate.
All I want is that bond of sisterhood. I want to have friendships like the ones I see of my friends in other sororities, and it makes me wish I had joined a different sorority. It makes me wish I had never been initiated into my sorority so when I transfer I could try a different sorority.
I just needed to get everything off of my chest, and I apologize for the long post.
Am I just overreacting? Is any of this my fault? Or did I just join the most screwed up "sisterhood" on the face of the earth?
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