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[thetalady]

Originally Posted by aquababy

Ouchhh ok, what happened to finding the sorority that's the best fit for you? cause i don't feel that it is.here's some details...It's been a couple weeks since bid day, and while I've met a few older sisters I really like, a good portion of them seem a bit valley girl-ish, if you know what I mean. I've made a few friends in my new member class too. I keep thinking about the other party I went to on pref night, which seems like a bad sign to me lol. they seemed like the most real girls - like i felt like i was just in a room with friends as opposed to in a sorority. the one i'm in now definitely doesn't feel like home - its not awful, its not great. just ehh. pref night kinda threw me - i liked the one i'm in now's ceremony so much better (i know, stupid) & the other one was more emotional than I usually am haha. but thats basically why i listed the one i'm in now as my first choice, but even as i was doing it i knew i should put the other one, but i figured if i got accepted then I would know that's where I'm supposed to be, but the fact that i'm still having doubts 3 weeks after bid day... but i'm a bit afraid to drop - what if i go through next year & turns out that was the right one. its not so much that they're too girly, though thats a small part of it; more the superficial/vapid-ness that i'm not a huge fan of. i'm able to talk to a handful of girls, but i'm not sure if its worth it to stay just for a few people. I've really given it a shot (3 weeks) but if I drop I have to do it soon because we have to order our pins by Nov. 2. The reason I hesitate to drop is because I am a freshman and I haven't made many friends; but if i had a solid group of friends, I would definitely drop. And one other thing - I feel the sorority i'm in now will change who I am, whereas the other one would enhance who i am, if that makes sense.

Sigh, it has been 3 weeks!! You are not going to be fast friends with a bunch of girls already.

Honestly, you probably need to put that other sorority out of your mind. You have no idea if you would get a bid from them next time around. On many, many campuses, it is extremely hard for a sophomore to get a bid, much less one that has already pledged and quit one organization.

Your decision right now should be "am I willing to be a full member of this sorority and fully commit or am I willing to risk not being in a sisterhood AT ALL."

THAT is your decision.... up to you.