Alabama Sorority Costs...Can anyone help?

[ellebud]

As a parent of three kids, who were born 4 years apart, I want to weigh in. Life changes and sometimes we just can't help that. We brought our oldest home from the hospital to a sweet starter house. Our second to a very nice house in suburbia with a housekeeper. And our third to the house we live in now which is flights above the prior homes. (Not a step or two). Life changes. And kids don't get the "same" stuff. My son freely says that while the three siblings were raised by the same people he was an "only" which neither of his sisters were and he had no idea that we once lived in a small sweet house with only 2 bathrooms. Their early childhood was different...not better not worse...different.

It saddens me that people assume that a family can just cut down on lattes and then can afford something else. That being said: OP schools often recommend that kids not work their first year. Save for medical school...totally untrue. People waste time..a lot. To view that as a done deal, be it for money for a sorority of a nicer dorm room or a trip to Cabo is nonsense. Many houses have scholarships and award money. (At least they do here).

Life can be unfair. But parents (good parents, and I believe the OP is a good parent) find a way of thinking out of the box. Your child is not a "child". She can help sort this out and NOT by dropping houses. (I will say that after my daughter's recruitment I was kind of happy that my daughter didn't like the uber expensive house.)

Let her rush her heart. Let her find the way to help out.