I'm not sure how you desenters would want "mutual selection" to work. In any type of selection process, someone has to make the first selection...even in the jungle! That's a requirement. In NPC, we say the chapters make the first choice because it's their "house" and their organization. They have the right to determine who comes into that circle. The PNMs decide which invitations they would like to accept. And the process goes on. Just because Susie Snowflake has been led to believe that she will always be selected for everything because daddy's little darling is so special and unique that "no" has never been said to her and never will doesn't mean that we (the members) are a bunch of out of step mean *itches. We didn't all get asked to the prom. Someone gets left out. Some don't belong in the first place. That doesn't mean they have no self worth. The only place we are all special is with God. It doesn't extend to everything else.
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