What did I do wrong?

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Originally Posted by tifferini

Recruitment for my school's sororities was this last weekend.
And I went in with an open mind on who I wanted to join. I didn't start forming opinions until day 2. During day 1, I thought I did really well with certain 3 houses (the conversation flowed, there wasn't any awkward silences). And it was because the conversation went really well that I ranked these houses as my top 3 (out of 6 sororities). But on day 2, I found out that I was only invited back to two sororities for house tours. Neither of those two houses were my top choices.

I was just wondering if there was anything I did wrong for my top choices to not pick me? I know it's a mutual selection. And it's not like I dressed inappropriately or talked about other sororities. I asked lots of questions, asked them about their sorority involvement, told them of my own involvement in school, etc.

Another note: on preference night, I was invited back to the sorority that I didn't feel any connection with. I went to preference night but I decided to drop out of recruitment afterward. But apparently they really liked me since one of their sisters personally called me and asked me to reconsider my choice and giving their house another chance. This made me feel really guilty because they were all really nice, I just didn't feel like I belonged there. I told them I wasn't going to join this semester but I'll keep an open mind for spring rush as well as next year.

Nope. I DON'T feel sorry for you! It is a MUTUAL selection. Apparently the ones you wanted didn't want you back. Get over it! There are some great women that you turned down because, even though you CLAIM you went into recruitment with an OPEN mind-you didn't! If you truly had an open mind you would have realized that there was a chance to meet great women who could be your sisters. They liked you and you turned them down.

It is like dating. You had the opportunity to be with the nice guy who really wanted to treat you right and tell you how awesome you are, but you are sitting at home-waiting by the phone, for the guy who isn't thinking about you and doesn't want you. I don't feel sorry for you! I would rather a woman tell me that she took another NPC's bid and enjoyed her time as an XYZ over telling me she sat around-just waiting-for Phi Mu to call her back and give her a bid. Go enjoy the women who want you. Take this time to give back and do something incredible w/ yourself by doing a philanthropy with the women that want you.

You won't get any sympathy from me.