mistreated by my sorority?

[DoctorD]

Responding to your post by talking about my own experience:

a turning point for me was when I started making the effort to get to know the sisters. I tend to sit back and absorb what is happening around me rather than jump right in. I remember when I was a "pledge" that I was hanging out with a guy who was pledging a fraternity and I wondered out loud what I should do that evening and he said, "Why don't you go to the sorority house?" And I did - I started going over there whenever I had free time and just hanging out in different girls' rooms. And since I was there, people started asking me to do things - help with homecoming, go get dessert, etc.

My taking the initiative led to officer positions, including chapter president.

When I became a sister-mother, I treated my sister-daughter the way that I wanted to be treated. Don't get me wrong - I am still friends with my sister-mother to this day, but the match was not perfect.

All of this to say - your sorority experience is what YOU make out of it - not the presents that people buy, but the relationships that you forge. Not everyone is super outgoing, many are insecure themselves, and just don't know how to make that first step.

So my advice, fwiw, is to really make an effort to become involved, and then work to treat others in the manner that you would have preferred. You could change the sorority experience for a number of women just by doing so.

Maybe that's not what you thought you were getting into when you joined the sorority, but wow - what a golden opportunity you have right now.