mistreated by my sorority?

[beccaminister]

Mistreated is a strong word, especially for what you are experiencing. This is not mistreatment.

I "ditto" all of the above responders who say that you have to do some of the work here and make an effort. Remember, these girls wanted you, so they want to keep you around, but they aren't going to do it all for you.

Also, the weeks after recruitment involve alot of "catch up" time for the sorority. Members have often put their lives, jobs, and academics on hold for recruitment and now are trying to catch up. This is not an excuse, but part of the after-recruitment reality.

Finally, joining a sorority is NOT "buying friends", therefore you should not expect to throw down your money and get instant friends. You have a built-in connection with these ladies via your letters, cultivate that and start building friendships within your pledge class and with the actives who spend time with you.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by beccaminister

Finally, joining a sorority is NOT "buying friends", therefore you should not expect to throw down your money and get instant friends. You have a built-in connection with these ladies via your letters, cultivate that and start building friendships within your pledge class and with the actives who spend time with you.

YES.

We get girls coming here to GC all the time saying the same stuff about how they "don't feel included."

So many people think that you get a bid and MAGICALLY every girl in the chapter is your BESTEST FRIEND EVER.

Then they are very disappointed to learn that this is not the case.

Just like anyone else you meet, it takes time to become friends with them.

Example: When you met your best friend from high school or something, you didn't just walk up to her and say "We're bffs now."

Or when you started your new job, you didn't just walk up to all the girls in your cubicle area and say, "I work here now, so we're bffs."

It's the same thing with a sorority.

A sorority is just like REAL LIFE.

Making friends takes time and effort.

[KSUViolet06]

Also:

If someone passes you and they don't wave, IT DOES NOT mean that they do not like you.

It doesn't mean they don't care about the New Members.

It doesn't mean they don't think you're important.

It probably means that they were BUSY and NOT PAYING ATTENTION.

Give them a break, they're humans just like you.

I don't think they're "mistreating you" because you wave and they don't wave back.