So basically, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years...It will be two in September. He goes to Georgia Tech, I go to UGA....I transferred there from App State, which was about 5 hours away, to be closer to him (and to go to a much better school for my major, journalism.).
Basically, there are a few issues here that I need to vent/get feedback on...
The first is that he whines and whines about how I need to come visit him this summer (I'm five hours away again, at home with my family, and he is in ATL still). However, I only have a part-time job and am trying to save money to go to NYC next spring (I don't travel a lot so while I could go on the bare minimum on the visit, I'd rather do it RIGHT)...and I also have to pay for ALL my college...which, after grad school, will probably be somewhere between $80,000-$100,000. So, needless to say, driving 323 miles to and from Atlanta really isn't the best idea right now and he doesn't really understand that and gets upset when I say that I can't afford it, or take time off work, or, needless to say, add 600 miles to a car that already has 200k+ miles on it. He, on the other hand, has a brand new jeep, a job that pays almost $2,000 a month (full time internship) and is paying for little to none of his college education.
The other bone I have to pick is that way back in say, November, I asked him to accompany me to my cousins wedding in New Jersey. This is a BIG issue for me, because I really REALLY want him to meet my family (hell, its been two years, the boy IS my family)...so we had it all planned out, my parents were paying for EVERYTHING of his, and he was going to come. Well, since he got the internship, he said he wouldn't be able to get time off work. So we had to cancel all of his reservations and blahblah, I was EXTREMELY disappointed...it really meant a lot to me. Now, however, he seems to be able to take "half days" on both a Monday and a Friday and fly down to Miami for some concert thing for a weekend...but wasn't able to figure something like that out for my cousins wedding when i suggested it.
Adding onto the family thing..If we were in a normal relationship (and even when we are both home, for that matter), he would be welcome over to my house at ANY time when my family was gathering or even when i was just sitting around (With the exception of like, past 2 am)..and would ALWAYS be welcome for a family meal at my house, even if it was on a wednesday night and it was just my mom and my brother and i eating grilled cheese. However, his family really isn't that welcoming in that sense and they are having a fourth of july small gathering for his best friend who is moving to japan. Is it incredibly wrong of me to be upset over this? I mean, at this point, shouldn't he consider me as family as I do him?
Am I just whining a whole lot and making a big deal out of things or is this stuff that actually makes sense to be upset over??? I love him and I really don't want to break up with him or anything but it seems after reading this that I have serious issues...
I need advice about the boyfriend... (this is long)
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