I need advice about the boyfriend... (this is long)

[kddani]

Don't make excuses for him. "keep in mind he was drunk". Drunk or sober, your relationship isn't going the way you want it to, he's not making you happy, and he's not doing his part. Get out. The longer you make excuses for him the more you make yourself look like an ass for putting up with him and his selfish behavior. Long distance relationships take sacrifice and work on BOTH parties if they are to succeed. It can't be a one-way effort.

Granted, an email certainly wasn't the best way to handle this talk, but then again you're along distance relationship.

From this limited amount of information, it certainly seems that you're way more into him than he is into you. Dump his ass, get in a place where you're happy with your life and yourself, and you'll find someone else.

[ausguals]

Originally Posted by kddani

Long distance relationships take sacrifice and work on BOTH parties if they are to succeed. It can't be a one-way effort.

I realize I am making excuses for him, I really do. It's just hard to put myself in a position to break up with him because this is the ONLY problem we have (Granted, its a huge problem.). It really didn't used to be like this up until a few months ago (April-ish). He's coming home this weekend so I think we're going to talk about it. He's been relatively nice since when I last sat down and had a talk with him, but that doesn't necessarily mean anything at all and is probably just temporary. Basically, I'm going to tell him straight up how I feel and I'll see where that goes. Face to face. Which is probably going to be a whole lot harder, but its probably what we (or I) need.