Blacks that rush NPC

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Originally Posted by PANTHERTEKE

You may not, and I'm sure most of the more older and mature graduate members of NPHC orgs may not, but we all know that attitudes are different in the undergraduate level.

My school probably has the most diverse IFC/NPC membership of any school, and yet my Black grand-big sister has had instances where she has been treated condescendingly by NPHC sorority members when they discover she belongs to an NPC sorority.

Some people need to stop living in this Utopian GC world where everyone accepts everyone and everyone gets along, because that is not the case in real life.

Eh...there is no Utopian GC world. AKA Monet is talking about something much greater than what you're talking about. And the greater point resonates with both undergraduate and graduate NPHC members. Not all but enough for there to be a greater point.

Yes, there are undergraduate NPHCers who give blacks in the NPC a raised eyebrow. I was one of them years ago (and I give them a raised eyebrow now) because of the intolerant climate on my campus, and others, and the reputation of some of the fraternities on campus. The 2 black men in HWGLOs on my campus were told they were "different" and we couldn't understand why anyone would want to be in a chapter where they are being validated as being "different (from the rest of the blacks that these dudes knew)." The two black guys in the 2 fraternities were cool as hell (one of them had an Omega father) and they learned not to separate themselves from the other blacks, just because they were feeling like they had to be "different." There were no NPHC frats chartered on the campus, anyway, and they chose not to pursue membership through another chapter---who cares? We didn't ask them about their fraternity and they never shared info--we just wanted to connect on a people level with men who were really not "different" when they realized that they weren't under the scrutiny of their fraternity brothers when they were around us.

The one black girl in an NPC sorority on campus was received a certain way because she was afraid to talk to black people. We continuously tried to engage her because we knew she was probably a very nice person. One day we asked her about her experience (this was probably before we were in NPHC orgs ourselves) and she cheerfully (always cheerful because she's such a sweetheart) confessed that she wasn't used to being around black people. She's the nicest person in the world and her heart was always in the right place.

My problem: If you want to pursue a nonNPHC organization, most of us at the undergrad and grad level TRULY don't give a damn beyond making the initial observation. But if you're doing it because you've been touted as "different," because you're not used to be around blacks, or are afraid of blacks then YES people will respond to you accordingly. That's not about being in the NPC or IFC, that's about YOU.

And for blacks in the NPC who say they don't have to explain themselves or they did what makes them happy and seek no validation, I beg to differ in many cases.