Soliloquy's Fall 2007 recruitment

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by fantASTic

The problem is...you may know her personality, what she's done and other stuff about her, but you DO NOT KNOW that she will "make a great asset". You don't know little stuff - some people sound GREAT on paper or online, but in real life they're incredibly annoying and self-centered. [Not that she necessarily is...but YOU DON'T KNOW THAT.] Someone who has a high GPA and many activities and positions on her resume does NOT a good member make. And THAT is the key.

And, the problem with telling them that they'll make a great asset to a sorority is that for girls who will NEVER fit into the greek system, it only encourages them to keep trying and keep trying and keep trying...and keep failing. I don't know if you've ever read the "Weird Rush" stories, but there are definitely some about girls who keep going through and going through and going through and NEVER getting bids, because even though they think they're perfect for it and Mommy and those nice girls on the internet tell them that they're great assets and should do it again and again, they don't realize that maybe Greek life isn't for them. Maybe if someone had sat down that girl and said, "You need to seriously reconsider never rushing again, because Greek life is NOT for everyone", then they wouldn't get that heartbreak over and over again.

If Soliloquy gets cut from all 4 sororities again, are you STILL going to say that she would make a great asset? What if she rushes again and gets cut completely again? Unless you're prepared to tell her that all those horrible chapter sisters at her school are so bad and wrong for cutting her not matter HOW many times she rushes, [since that's basically what you're saying, that you don't trust their judgment] then you should not say it in the first place.

And in case that last part was unclear, any girl who rushes multiple times and does not get a bid is probably not a good fit for Greek life. I trust my sisters to make decisions, and I would NEVER head over to any other chapter and tell them, "You made a HUGE mistake cutting this girl!" especially if I didn't know her in person or before recruitment. We simply need to trust their judgment.



To the OP: Please don't take what I said above as an attack on you, because it isn't. There ARE women who fall through the cracks, and if you're one of them, then you should be fine when you re-rush. This is less about you than it is about people making misleading promises. Even if you don't take them like that, others will. Good luck with recruitment, and let us know how it goes.

So what your saying is that if a woman does not receive a bid to a sorority, then obviously she has nothing to offer and could not be a good asset to a group! I completely disagree. Do you really think that meeting someone for 10 minutes at a recruitment party gives you anymore insight into a PNM than talking to someone several times through PNMs in a less pressured and superficial situation? We all know there are many, many great women who never make it into the system for one reason or another. The number of psychos like you mentioned in the Weird Rush Stories thread are the exception not the rule! Not to mention, self centered people often do make good chapter members as well. You'll never find a chapter filled with only down to earth, 4.0, mothering types who would rather do for you than do for themselves! I am completely opposed to the idea that Soliloquy isn't WORTHY because she didn't get a bid...that is ridiculous and disrespectful to a woman you obviously don't know any better than I do! I don't think the sorority members at her school are bad, they just may not see that she would be a great asset (yes, I'll say great asset, because strong leaders are a great asset!) Of course, there may be something in Soliloquy's history that is keeping her out, but that often isn't reasonable either. Recruitment is not perfect, we all say it, so don't act like a PNM must be trash or unworthy if it doesn't work out for her. And...NO, I wouldn't recommend that she try and try and try to get in, but I definitely would recommend that she at least give it one more try. Last time I checked, we give that advice to PNMs on a twice daily basis at GC!