Soliloquy's Fall 2007 recruitment

[kddani]

Originally Posted by Leslie Anne

Are you just deliberately trying to be pissy? Should I give you a rating on a scale of 1 to 10 of how well I think I know her?

Seriously, people, I am not one to follow all the new rush threads posting meaningless drivel. I am NOT one of the sunshine crew! I feel strongly about this particular PNM and I don't have to justify that to anyone.

What did she say that was "pissy"? She was being devil's advocate. There's no need to be so angry against people who have a differing viewpoint from you.

I would agree with her statement. You don't really "know" someone that you've only talked to online somewhat. There have been more than a few people that have come on here and presented themselves well and everyone loved them. Then we find out that they've lied about themselves - either their affiliation, background, name, etc. There's been more than a few. Anyone can be anyone they want online, when it is anonymous. It's even gone so far that people carry on the lie to real life. More than a few people got hurt, because they carried on relationships with these people then found out it was all based on lies.

I don't know if that's the case with the OP, but that's the point, I don't know.

She rushed, and was not given a bid. We need to trust our collegiate sister's judgments - it's their decision, not ours. I personally am trusting our KD sisters at the OP's school. Whatever reason they had, it was their reason, it's none of our business now, and I trust it.

[ASUADPi]

Originally Posted by kddani

I would agree with her statement. You don't really "know" someone that you've only talked to online somewhat.

I don't mean to totally hijack this thread, but I have to disagree with this statement. One of my best friends I met online. We met through a yahoo group for one of our old fave TV shows. While chatting online we discovered that we had other things in common and started chatting via email, we then moved to phone. We talked for over a year via phone, email and IM before I got to meet her IRL. We are still very good friends to this day, but her being in a different state than I am makes it difficult for us to see each other.

I just state this story of mine because if the OP is honest with herself and whomever she is communicating with outside GC, I truly believe that those she is communicating with "know her".

But that is your opinion, so I'm not going to tell you that it is wrong for you to have the opinion, because it's not. I just happen to disagree with it

[kddani]

Originally Posted by ASUADPi

I don't mean to totally hijack this thread, but I have to disagree with this statement. One of my best friends I met online. We met through a yahoo group for one of our old fave TV shows. While chatting online we discovered that we had other things in common and started chatting via email, we then moved to phone. We talked for over a year via phone, email and IM before I got to meet her IRL. We are still very good friends to this day, but her being in a different state than I am makes it difficult for us to see each other.

I just state this story of mine because if the OP is honest with herself and whomever she is communicating with outside GC, I truly believe that those she is communicating with "know her".

But that is your opinion, so I'm not going to tell you that it is wrong for you to have the opinion, because it's not. I just happen to disagree with it

That's fine. I, too, feel as if I know a lot of GCers quite well, and I haven't met them in person (though many I have). But that's also been formed over a number of years.

However, I'm thinking more specifically of KDLady00 and others whom I will not specifically bring up (because those people really hurt others who thought they trusted them).

And the person whose quote I quoted (but removed the name) isn't someone whom I believe has really talked with this girl that extensively.

Over the years, the "XYZ group doesn't know what they're missing" and other similar phrases have popped up a lot. I understand that it's usually said in innocence. However, it also gives false hope to some people. It's rare that a girl who is cut from all groups, even when maximizing her options, ends up having a successful rush in a subsequent year.

To the OP, sorry for derailing your thread, this happens sometimes on message boards. I don't know you, you may very well be a great person and I don't think anything anyone has said is really directed to you personally. A lot of us tend to view these threads very one-dimensionally, almost as hypothetical situations and sort of examine them that way. In the process, we do lose track of the fact that there's a real person behind them (who may really be genuine). For that I apologize.