I don't know Soliloquy, have never PMed or communicated with her at all. That said, I didn't take her comments to be prideful, in the negative sense. I think she was just trying to express that she was proud to be part of something that might help her chances of getting more notice if she does go through FR again. We can all support the fact that the better leadership you can demonstrate, the better you look to any house. Whatever she has become part of, it sounds like something a lot of Greeks on her campus support and are impressed by--what's wrong with that and with her telling us that? She's been sharing her story all along and we've been following with (mostly) support. Now that she's found something positive to bring to the table, why not applaud?
I could maybe see where some people came away with a different impression. And I agree, no sense giving false promise to any PNM. But if we could count the hundreds, thousands, of girls over the years who went through FR the first time and didn't make the cut, would we all just deem them inferior or somehow deficient for it, and ourselves better for getting in? I personally know many amazing women who went through a second time and pledged successfully, as well as went on to become wonderful leaders. Let's not kid ourselves. The process can be imperfect, harsh, and arbitrary, and we do miss good people along the way. But we're here to show all who come to these boards, Greek or not, that we are a great community and that we certainly give people more than one chance to show their potential contributions to our chapters.
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