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Originally Posted by AKA_Monet
Okay, men hate to be honored and appreciated and actually do like women to read their minds... I cannot believe that, but hey, I can be wrong. Fine. I am happy to be wrong in this one.
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Hilarious.
Men love to feel appreciated, in general. Men, in general, are not enamored with this being a public spectacle.
Anecdote: I cook dinner for myself and my girlfriend probably 5 nights a week, and she cooks very infrequently. She loves to tell her friends and family that I cook all the time and that I'm good at it (I'm really not at all, I just like doing it - plus she cleans, which is huge). I hate it when she does that - it's really not a big deal, and I don't really care for her mom/sister/aunt/friends to fawn over it. It just doesn't matter.
I love it, though, when she says "thank you" after every meal I make - that's way more important.
I think the disconnect here is that we're using the same terms in completely different ways. If you want the black guys in your area to feel appreciated, do something small, or (like everyone else has posited) do something you wouldn't normally do that they would enjoy.
Have a poker game, or learn how to play Madden, or just spend a day doing "guy things" and say "we appreciate you, so we want to do the things you like for a day."
Unfortunately, there's no magic formula - and no plaque on the wall will make me feel honored or appreciated more than a simple, borderline meaningless action would. Dudes are about action - do, not say or celebrate.
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