Gentlemen, how can we ladies honor you?

[Senusret I]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

At sometime, you will have to come up for air...

Actually, you kinda don't.

Once again, sports, sex, and food. Hotel room with ESPN and room service for a weekend. And sex. Heck, I don't even like girls and I could go for that right about now.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

Actually, you kinda don't.

Once again, sports, sex, and food. Hotel room with ESPN and room service for a weekend. And sex. Heck, I don't even like girls and I could go for that right about now.

Can you do any of these in public? Publicly, how can one honor and appreciate a man or men?

[Senusret I]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Can you do any of these in public? Publicly, how can one honor and appreciate a man or men?

That's the thing.... other than receiving an award based on merit of some sort, I don't think most men want or need to be appreciated publicly.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

That's the thing.... other than receiving an award based on merit of some sort, I don't think most men want or need to be appreciated publicly.

How come? Or more to the point, WHY?

Aren't they worth it?

[Senusret I]

It's just preference.... the more you question it, the more it seems like you think we're somehow wrong for feeling this way.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

It's just preference.... the more you question it, the more it seems like you think we're somehow wrong for feeling this way.

You are free to feel the way you feel. I do not think you are wrong for feeling this way given your explanations. I greatly appreciate that myself.

But without any understanding or explanation, I am left to be confused. I am unable to do read facial expressions on GC, then all I have left is to request clarification.

Thank you for your remarks, they will be considered for an event I was attempting to plan considering GC men's ideas.

The one we use to have for the Undergraduate Chapter I use to be the graduate advisor for would have the "Tribute to the Black Man", which was a lovely event telling Black men that we love them, cherish them and hope the best for them. The gentlemen truly enjoyed it. We dressed up very nicely and provocatively, serving them a healthy dinner.

I was thinking I could upgrade it to include ALL men, and have a fully supportive event they, their friends and family would enjoy.

I am sorry for considering the better judgment of GC gentlemen and wasting your time.

[AlexMack]

Monet, why are you confused? You're not a dude which is why you asked the guys on here what they prefer.
The men made no bones about it-they're simple in their tastes and preferences. They're not chicks.
If I was a guy and you wanted to do me an event here is what I would say:
-I don't want to have to dress up
-I want to eat foods I enjoy, not food you think I should eat.
-I want to sit and enjoy the company of people I know AND like and get to talk about what I want

Maybe you could set up a videogames station, a screen projector playing good action movies (my recent favourites are the Bourne trilogy but I'll watch classics too), and a chef who cooks steaks to order. The sex part may have to wait until later. Oh, and some widescreen tvs with a variety of different sports showing.

Since all that sounds awesome to me I can now see why I get along with guys so well.

[Animate]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

You are free to feel the way you feel. I do not think you are wrong for feeling this way given your explanations. I greatly appreciate that myself.

But without any understanding or explanation, I am left to be confused. I am unable to do read facial expressions on GC, then all I have left is to request clarification.

Thank you for your remarks, they will be considered for an event I was attempting to plan considering GC men's ideas.

The one we use to have for the Undergraduate Chapter I use to be the graduate advisor for would have the "Tribute to the Black Man", which was a lovely event telling Black men that we love them, cherish them and hope the best for them. The gentlemen truly enjoyed it. We dressed up very nicely and provocatively, serving them a healthy dinner.

I was thinking I could upgrade it to include ALL men, and have a fully supportive event they, their friends and family would enjoy.

I am sorry for considering the better judgment of GC gentlemen and wasting your time.

I don't think that it was a waist of time at all. You said that you held an event that was a "Tribute to the Black Man". The things that were done at that event could be extended to all men.

We men are fairly simple creatures. We don't get all riled up and excited about big extravagant things we will reallly appreciate the little things. Example: 9/10 when I go home to visit my parents my dad will have some random snack that he knows that I like. Makes my stay all the better. He does a similar thing for my sister.

But to try to answer your question, if you know the group of men then I suggest treating them to a spa session. This is rarely something a guy would do for himself but he would definitely go for it if it was a gift, or at least I would.

[DeltAlum]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

I am sorry for considering the better judgment of GC gentlemen and wasting your time.

I don't think it's a waste of time at all. In fact, I'm impressed that you had the consideration to ask the question -- despite my poor attempt at humor earlier.

The problem is that, like when someone asks me what I want for Christmas, I simply am hard pressed to answer. I haven't really ever given it any thought.

In fact, the only answer I come up with is, "something thoughtful."

Please don't ask me to define that, though.

[tld221]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

That's the thing.... other than receiving an award based on merit of some sort, I don't think most men want or need to be appreciated publicly.

sistagreek, i really think they mean it when they say theyre simple like that.

in my limited scope of how men work (and men, being my 2 brothers, who are teenaged, my closest guy friends who are my age, ex bf's who were "generally" my age and older, and my female family members' SOs):

--doing something subtle and out of the blue they dont expect: one day i brought home a cherry pepsi for my brother - no big deal, but he was excited for the rest of the day. ok, he's 14, so what, it made his day!

--doing something that "them other broads" aren't doing: my mother was interested in this guy way back when, and he confided in her that he felt like women only used him for their personal benefit, and that all he attracted were golddiggin women that didnt care. so on his birthday, she sent him a bouquet of flowers to his house. his response: wow, that was different, all these other females either threw themselves at me or came to the house with a dime bag... sometimes you get tiref od the same stuff. well... 12 years later, he's my stepfather!

but actually, he says what REALLY made his feel "special" was when my mom made him a plate of hot wings and a pitcher of Kool-Aid for lunch. i mean he's grown and all, but go figure.

--doing something that's *gasp* not sexual: the past two dates i went on i wore jeans, sneakers, and pretty much covered up in a PG kinda way. partly cause i dont like heels and partly because i was tired of going out of my way (makeup, T&A, etc) for dudes. and the last dude i went on a date with was dressed up seriously - slacks, shoes, everything! it was so out of his element but he said that me not being "sexed up (his words) took the pressure off everything on his end.

now i dont know if any of this holds true for anyone else (maybe what i said was obvious - i AM a youngin after all) helps at all or is even valid to you sistagreek, but that's just my female two-cents.