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[AKA_Monet]

The Rules. Living it Ala Carte style. Rules are made to be broken.

I am married. I never thought I would meet someone that would ask me to marry him and I take his request seriously. We barely knew each other.

But, I knew he was a good guy. He could not have all these "accomplishments" and be a total EFF-up. May be I did settle, but my husband puts a house over my head and food to eat. Sure, I could do it on my own, a house may take me some time, but I have found that I am extremely lonely at the top...

After our 3rd date, I told my boyfriend (now husband) that he needed to tell me where to go and how to get there within 3 months. Our "dates" required airplane flights.

Now, you cannot say that to anyone or your heart will get broken. But, if you want that person in your life and he or she is feeling your vibe, then it should not be difficult for you to state that to them succinctly.

My now husband's reaction: he said was giving him too much pressure. Then, I told him he can decide what he wants and after 3 months, he can make a decision or not. But, if I have to make that decision of what kind of relationship we need to have, we will not be in a relationship anymore, forever. He could have called my bluff, but to him, having me in his life was important. So he proposed--on the phone. We eloped because an argument. But, I must say it has been the most self-introspection and great experience of my life. I cannot imagine life without him, now.

I think we believe in this "fairy tale" dream of "how it is 'suppose' to be" as if we are on soap opera television pay per view. Let me tell you, all of that does not make a MARRIAGE. Marriage is hard for a reason. I learned is absolutely does not matter "HOW" you get married, it is all about "WHO" you marry and YOUR reasons you chose to marry them. If better not be about being rich--because you say "for richer or poorer". It better not be about health, because you say "in sickness and in health". And it better not be just about growing old, because you say "'til death do you part" and you never know when that is...

The best you can hope for is to have a "loving relationship" in your marriage. And remember, you are building a "family" even if it is just the 2 of you.

There are practical things you can do together.

PM me if you have questions.