What to tell a girl who didn't get a bid

Originally Posted by OTW

Um, no offense but if I were a bidless PNM and someone told me what you just wrote, I'd feel even more like shit.

When you have time, try to go through the recruitment threads in this forum -- and pick out the ones where things didn't really go well in the end for the PNM. Lots of GCers have offered their advice/words of comfort to PNMs who didn't get a bid. Maybe you can pick up a few things from those threads.

no kidding, thats why i posted this. because i need advice about giving advice. i can't exactly offer comforting words to a girl i don't like. and looking at how the votes went for her, neither will many other girls in my sorority. am i supposed to tell her "well, you cheated on your boyfriend with the boyfriend of one of our sisters who then broke up with that sister for you. you're also fake and hyprocritcal and change your personality and opinion depending on who you talk to." i'm telling you i know for sure this girl is going to approch one of us, so not telling her anything is not an option. thanks for your help.