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Originally Posted by AKA_Monet
I dunno Cheerful, if you unable to work it out now, could you do it when you are married to someone? Although a reflection of what your future situations might be, if you leave and walk out that door, you cannot come back...
Most significant others have two faults: character flaws and differences in point of view. Some of these faults rarely change, some by persuasive argument. Inevitably, if it is a character flaw in your significant other, it will rarely change--i.e. you're a spendthrift and he's miserly... But, if it is a point of view issue, then your significant other has a higher probability to be persuaded to change--i.e. whether to buy bottled water vs. water from the tap. Or rather, you all just mutually agree to disagree... ("Towmato" vs. "Toe motto").
It is good to get outta the house and do your own thing for a few hours. And during the moment of a heated argument, you can do a "T" with your hands and say "timeout". Then come back to the discussion to see what the real difficulty is...
I can say, it has been my experience that it has to do with insecurities people have, in general.
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Of course not. I wouldn't leave my spouse, unless he cheated on me, and even then I would still try and work through that. I'm not sure how far I would get but I would at least try. I know we all have our differences but if I was in a relationship that was so bad that I really had to work to the point that I felt I needed a break all the time, then I wouldn't think that was the right person for me, so I would have to break it off and move on. It would hurt but I would do it. I mean I know relationships can get rocky sometimes and they do take work, but how bad does it have to get in order to take a break? A break to me means hey I'm tired of this and I need a break. I know sometimes we need to get away and say timeout, and that's o.k. but a temporary break as in let's separate for awhile and then reunite? It has to be pretty bad for me to do that.
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