Relationship - Taking a Break

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by OneTimeSBX

to me, $ would only become an issue if he decided once we got married he would never ever hold a job again, or he decided to spend all of his $ on something detrimental, like midget porn or hot wheels cars.

divorcing due to money just seems so shallow, but that is just my opinion. everyone hits a snag, and hopefully if someone had a problem that severe, it would reveal itself before the nuptuals.....

I agree with you 100%.

Ya know, if money is that big of a deal, then why not say "I love your money rather than you?" I thought couples get married because they love one another.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

AKA Monet, the only thing where I would differ, is a relationship before marriage has to be serious for me, because that way I can determine if she's marriage material. If she's not serious, honest and faithful before marriage, she won't be in the marriage. Otherwise, yeah, you're on jam, and right on when you mentioned marriage and money. Sad, but true.

What you are discussing is "Courting" a potential "marriageable" woman rather than just "random dating", which means to me a not serious situation to begin with.

Courting takes planning out the interaction more carefully with intent.

Dating is pretty much close to being just friends and hanging out or wham bam thank you ma'am...

When you removing dating from your purview, and change to intentional courting, you are a that time in your life that you seek a mate. The biggest issue is are you ready to actually BE in a serious relationship like that intentionally to lead to marriage and beyond. Because some folks marry for the wedding presents, rather than be "in the marriage".

Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek

I thought couples get married because they love one another.

You would think so, but you would be amazed how many folks actually do not... I am seeing in generations younger than me to truly have those thoughts about loving, however they are getting married at older ages past 30. But who knows? I think couples marry for myriads of reasons.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

What you are discussing is "Courting" a potential "marriageable" woman rather than just "random dating", which means to me a not serious situation to begin with.

Courting takes planning out the interaction more carefully with intent.

Dating is pretty much close to being just friends and hanging out or wham bam thank you ma'am...

When you removing dating from your purview, and change to intentional courting, you are a that time in your life that you seek a mate. The biggest issue is are you ready to actually BE in a serious relationship like that intentionally to lead to marriage and beyond. Because some folks marry for the wedding presents, rather than be "in the marriage.

Well, I'm not looking to get married anytime soon, but I don't random or casual date. I like being with one woman, so I'm not down with the FWB thing. I agree, that's exactly what random dating is. It means lets screw. That's it.