Switching from a Local Sorority to a National One

[atoheadlines]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

The organizations themselves? Or the members of said organizations?

Try again

If everyone in the organizations are required to do it and they make up the organizations then the organizations are required to do it. I make sense.

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by atoheadlines

If everyone in the organizations are required to do it and they make up the organizations then the organizations are required to do it. I make sense.

Faulty logic.

But what do I know? I'm just an alumnus of a lowly Latino fraternity Shame on me!

[AXiDMeesh]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

Baa-zing! Right for the jugular! You sure know how to make me feel like less of a man!

Lol lol.

Why is this fool still here?

[AnotherKD]

Back to the original topic...

OP, looking at your posts, you said you were in the local for not quite 2 semesters and you have been out of that local for a year now. So, on top of everyone knowing you were in the local and probably not wanting to extend a bid to you for that, you'll also be rushing as a Junior?

[aopirose]

Originally Posted by 33girl

If the local is a full member of Panhel, you should not rush a new sorority.

As I stated before, it would be a total diss/invalidation of your previous sorority, and unless the local is a total and complete joke and no one on campus respects them, any NPC that takes you is not going to be looked at kindly either. "Wow...XYZ must be in trouble...they're taking the local's leftovers."

Seriously, I would not have any respect for a chapter that did this. You would have to be super incredible awesome to infinity (or, as I said, the local would have to be a complete joke on the verge of dying out, and even then people might have pity on them) for a chapter to take on the burdens that might come with bidding you.

Originally Posted by AnotherKD

OP, looking at your posts, you said you were in the local for not quite 2 semesters and you have been out of that local for a year now. So, on top of everyone knowing you were in the local and probably not wanting to extend a bid to you for that, you'll also be rushing as a Junior?

I don't think it's a good plan either.

[violetpretty]

If you don't care what kind of mess you make (in terms of relations to your local) and you don't care if you don't get a bid (meaning you'd rather not wonder "what if"), I say go for it. However, I think the GCers have warned you of what could happen with the local and the chapter you want and I think you're REALLY setting yourslef up for disappointment by only wanting one chapter.

Oh, and als463, it's not necessarily ZTA; it could also be AXO (victims of domestic violence) or DPhiE (anorexia nervosa) too...their philanthropies is more geard toward women, but not exclusively so.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by mkprncss

You said I'm probably not as well known as I think I am. Just saying that the exec would have to give reason to the entire sorority when they vote.

Noooooooooooo, that is not what I said. I said they probably don't love you as much as you think they do to go out on a limb for you. I'm pretty sure you ARE well known at this point. Actually "notorious" might be a better word for the situation.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Noooooooooooo, that is not what I said. I said they probably don't love you as much as you think they do to go out on a limb for you. I'm pretty sure you ARE well known at this point. Actually "notorious" might be a better word for the situation.

This.

They could like you. They might genuinely think "Man I feel really bad for mkprncss and what happened with the local." They may even enjoy having you around and inviting you to chapter dinner. That doesn't mean they want their sorority to be the one who went out on a limb to give you a bid (for whatever reason).

Obviously you want to try, so good luck, but I am just pointing out that like doesn't always = bid.

[mkprncss]

Originally Posted by AnotherKD

Back to the original topic...

OP, looking at your posts, you said you were in the local for not quite 2 semesters and you have been out of that local for a year now. So, on top of everyone knowing you were in the local and probably not wanting to extend a bid to you for that, you'll also be rushing as a Junior?

Yep. However I have roughly three more years (if not four) here

[thetygerlily]

As long as you understand that there are no guarantees for a bid and that things may not coming out smelling like roses, I say go for it. You won't know unless you try. Things could blow up, big time, but maybe- just maybe- they wouldn't. It's hard to say when we don't really know the campus culture and how the local is perceived.

Originally Posted by mkprncss

I'm the only one besides the advisor that will know I'm suiciding.

However... don't go through only for one group. You are already going to have a harder time because of your history with the local and potentially due to your age (some groups/schools care, some don't). What if this group cuts you on night one- would you drop out after going through so much effort to ensure you're eligible to go through? Keep an open mind and remember that it's a mutual selection process. You could wind up in that group, you could fall in love with another, or maybe not end up anywhere. So if you decide to go through recruitment, do it fully.

[mkprncss]

Originally Posted by thetygerlily

As long as you understand that there are no guarantees for a bid and that things may not coming out smelling like roses, I say go for it. You won't know unless you try. Things could blow up, big time, but maybe- just maybe- they wouldn't. It's hard to say when we don't really know the campus culture and how the local is perceived.



However... don't go through only for one group. You are already going to have a harder time because of your history with the local and potentially due to your age (some groups/schools care, some don't). What if this group cuts you on night one- would you drop out after going through so much effort to ensure you're eligible to go through? Keep an open mind and remember that it's a mutual selection process. You could wind up in that group, you could fall in love with another, or maybe not end up anywhere. So if you decide to go through recruitment, do it fully.

Thank you for your advice. I do plan on being open minded about the other groups as well. I agree--I may fall in love with a completely different one.

As for my age, I'm only 20. I didn't think that was old for a sorority!

[thetygerlily]

Originally Posted by mkprncss

Thank you for your advice. I do plan on being open minded about the other groups as well. I agree--I may fall in love with a completely different one.

As for my age, I'm only 20. I didn't think that was old for a sorority!

Ha, no it isn't necessarily old for a sorority- I meant that in terms of how many more years you will be in school. That really matters at some schools- and is a factor in some way or another. At mine, we had small chapters (all around 25-30) so most actives had leadership roles. An upperclass student had fewer years to serve as an officer- so that was a factor. But at the same time, we also liked them for what they brought to the table in terms of diversity of experience & maturity. So in the end it was a wash. However- at some schools it is an automatic out unless you are incredibly amazing and fantastic. Not saying you aren't, but you do have a couple of strikes to be mindful of. Hence my recommendation to either go through it fully (without intention of Single Intentional Preferencing, aka suiciding) or stop now.