Switching from a Local Sorority to a National One

[mkprncss]

Originally Posted by IrishLake

i gotta go with my gut and say this is a bad idea. i think you're setting yourself up for failure, especially since you're suiciding. it will become common knowledge that you are. and in my experience, the girls who made it known they WOULD be XYZ or nothing... ended up with nothing.

I'm the only one besides the advisor that will know I'm suiciding.

[thetygerlily]

As long as you understand that there are no guarantees for a bid and that things may not coming out smelling like roses, I say go for it. You won't know unless you try. Things could blow up, big time, but maybe- just maybe- they wouldn't. It's hard to say when we don't really know the campus culture and how the local is perceived.

Originally Posted by mkprncss

I'm the only one besides the advisor that will know I'm suiciding.

However... don't go through only for one group. You are already going to have a harder time because of your history with the local and potentially due to your age (some groups/schools care, some don't). What if this group cuts you on night one- would you drop out after going through so much effort to ensure you're eligible to go through? Keep an open mind and remember that it's a mutual selection process. You could wind up in that group, you could fall in love with another, or maybe not end up anywhere. So if you decide to go through recruitment, do it fully.

[mkprncss]

Originally Posted by thetygerlily

As long as you understand that there are no guarantees for a bid and that things may not coming out smelling like roses, I say go for it. You won't know unless you try. Things could blow up, big time, but maybe- just maybe- they wouldn't. It's hard to say when we don't really know the campus culture and how the local is perceived.



However... don't go through only for one group. You are already going to have a harder time because of your history with the local and potentially due to your age (some groups/schools care, some don't). What if this group cuts you on night one- would you drop out after going through so much effort to ensure you're eligible to go through? Keep an open mind and remember that it's a mutual selection process. You could wind up in that group, you could fall in love with another, or maybe not end up anywhere. So if you decide to go through recruitment, do it fully.

Thank you for your advice. I do plan on being open minded about the other groups as well. I agree--I may fall in love with a completely different one.

As for my age, I'm only 20. I didn't think that was old for a sorority!

[thetygerlily]

Originally Posted by mkprncss

Thank you for your advice. I do plan on being open minded about the other groups as well. I agree--I may fall in love with a completely different one.

As for my age, I'm only 20. I didn't think that was old for a sorority!

Ha, no it isn't necessarily old for a sorority- I meant that in terms of how many more years you will be in school. That really matters at some schools- and is a factor in some way or another. At mine, we had small chapters (all around 25-30) so most actives had leadership roles. An upperclass student had fewer years to serve as an officer- so that was a factor. But at the same time, we also liked them for what they brought to the table in terms of diversity of experience & maturity. So in the end it was a wash. However- at some schools it is an automatic out unless you are incredibly amazing and fantastic. Not saying you aren't, but you do have a couple of strikes to be mindful of. Hence my recommendation to either go through it fully (without intention of Single Intentional Preferencing, aka suiciding) or stop now.