What would raise a yellow, or red flag on a 1st date for you? - Page 11

christiangirl · #**151** 03-16-2007, 02:20 AM

Someone who starts to name our children and telling how wonderful marriage is going to be and how he can't wait. FREAKING HUGE RED FLAG. Unfortunately, that's a true story right there. Needless to say, little Josiah and Paija were never born because mommy thought daddy was an obsessive loser and refused to go on second date.

AlphaFrog · #**152** 03-16-2007, 07:31 AM

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Originally Posted by ΑΓΔSquirrel10

That didn't bother me as much as his obsession with internet cartoons!!!!!

He kept going on and on about them, and then he started QUOTING THEM.....IN CARTOON VOICES!!!

You went out with jon1856???

Just kidding jon.

ΑΓΔSquirrel10 · #**153** 03-16-2007, 10:19 AM

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Originally Posted by christiangirl

Someone who starts to name our children and telling how wonderful marriage is going to be and how he can't wait. FREAKING HUGE RED FLAG. Unfortunately, that's a true story right there. Needless to say, little Josiah and Paija were never born because mommy thought daddy was an obsessive loser and refused to go on second date.

This made me laugh so hard.

AlexMack · #**154** 03-16-2007, 10:42 PM

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Originally Posted by ΑΓΔSquirrel10

This made me laugh so hard.

Same here. Christian boys can be extremely scary.

PrettyBoy · #**155** 03-17-2007, 01:31 AM

Not too long ago my best friend set me up on a blind date that I didn't want to go on, but he talked me into it. She and I talked on the phone for a few hours, a week before our date. She wanted to go see a movie (bad place on a 1st date), so we met at the theater. This girl was so short it was insane. She was o.k. looking, very insecure, but extremely short. I was so mad at myself for letting my buddy talk me into going out with her. I'm 5'8' so I'm no giant, but I can't go out with a woman barely 5 feet.

kddani · #**156** 03-17-2007, 08:45 AM

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Not too long ago my best friend set me up on a blind date that I didn't want to go on, but he talked me into it. She and I talked on the phone for a few hours, a week before our date. She wanted to go see a movie (bad place on a 1st date), so we met at the theater. This girl was so short it was insane. She was o.k. looking, very insecure, but extremely short. I was so mad at myself for letting my buddy talk me into going out with her. I'm 5'8' so I'm no giant, but I can't go out with a woman barely 5 feet.

You're a short guy. A 5 foot tall girl is perfect for you. Girls over like 5'5 or so aren't going to want a man that they can't even wear heels around. A girl being 8 inches shorter than you is a pretty good ratio.

ΑΓΔSquirrel10 · #**157** 03-17-2007, 11:31 AM

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Originally Posted by kddani

You're a short guy. A 5 foot tall girl is perfect for you. Girls over like 5'5 or so aren't going to want a man that they can't even wear heels around. A girl being 8 inches shorter than you is a pretty good ratio.

I have a problem finding guys who are taller than me. I'm 5'9", and I LOVE to wear high heels! Problem is, guys are not much taller than me when I wear heels

So a 5'8" guy should be grateful to be with a girl who is 5'.

kddani · #**158** 03-17-2007, 11:37 AM

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Originally Posted by ΑΓΔSquirrel10

I have a problem finding guys who are taller than me. I'm 5'9", and I LOVE to wear high heels! Problem is, guys are not much taller than me when I wear heels

So a 5'8" guy should be grateful to be with a girl who is 5'.

Seriously. I'm 5'7 and wear heels almost constantly. If a guy is 5'10 or less, it really just feels awkward.

whiteandblack · #**159** 03-17-2007, 01:18 PM

on the first date, a man who is too touchy-feely and already talks about giving me massages.

christiangirl · #**160** 03-17-2007, 01:29 PM

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Originally Posted by centaur532

Same here. Christian boys can be extremely scary.

FOR REAL...."God sent you to me to be my one and only true love." WHATEVER, we'd only been together for like a week at that point and at 8 weeks he proposed. First of all, we were 17. I was NOT getting married at 17 to a guy I'd been with for 8 weeks. Man, I have the worst luck with crushes-turned-stalker, out of all my friends, it always happens to me....

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Not too long ago my best friend set me up on a blind date that I didn't want to go on, but he talked me into it. She and I talked on the phone for a few hours, a week before our date. She wanted to go see a movie (bad place on a 1st date), so we met at the theater. This girl was so short it was insane. She was o.k. looking, very insecure, but extremely short. I was so mad at myself for letting my buddy talk me into going out with her. I'm 5'8' so I'm no giant, but I can't go out with a woman barely 5 feet.

I'm just special this way, but I don't like guys to be much taller than I am (which is 5'3") I'm about 5'7" in my highest heels, so 5'8" would be perfect. Man, you're just the total package all around, where do you live again???

RoyalEmpress33 · #**161** 03-19-2007, 03:59 PM

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Let's say you were on a 1st date with someone and everything is going great. The conversation is good, and you're physically attracted to this person. During the conversation what would raise a yellow flag, and what would raise the red flag for you to say: "Oh hell no! There will not be a 2nd date!"

Wow, this is a good question. I think I have been blessed with the ability to find out within the first few minutes if I'll be dating someone period, let alone a second date.

Now, let's see here:

1.) I would look to see how he treats the women in his family. If I ahead of time find out that his rapport with the family isn't stellar, he might as well hang it up because there will be no second date. Red flag! Just stop right there.

2.) If he walks around with his pants hanging off of his behind(not that there is anything wrong with that, if that's what you like), there will be no second date. That's just not for me. You don't have to walk around dressed like your going to the academy awards, but you need to look decent. You're an ADULT now. Red flag.

3.) If he's not chivalrous. Nope. No second date. Treat a woman like a woman and remember to open doors, and pull out seats. I know this is 2007 and times have changed, but mannerisms shouldn't. I know this may seem kind of mean or even silly, but so what? Chivalry is like totally dead and decaying.

4.) I would consider myself an intellectual kind of girl so if he's more preoccupied with what happened on 106 & Park or the latest version of Jordans that came out, he can count me out.

5.) If he's sarcastic. He might as well not even bother calling.

6.) If he stays in the mirror more than I do, I would be worried. True, you should care about your image, but my goodness.

7.) If he talks too much, there will be no second date.

8.) I can't stand emotional or whiny type guys. No female wants another female around so if he's a whiny brat that always finds something to complain about, he needs to stay away from me.

9.) If he indicates anything that would make me think he is controlling. Uh uh, that's not going to work. If he thinks he's going to control me, he's got the wrong sista!

10.) If he smokes, ummm, ewww! That's gross. Cancer sticks-bleh!

11.) If he's a momma's boy, he might as well stay there with his mommy and not bother me.

OOhsoflyDELTA#9 · #**162** 03-19-2007, 10:33 PM

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Not too long ago my best friend set me up on a blind date that I didn't want to go on, but he talked me into it. She and I talked on the phone for a few hours, a week before our date. She wanted to go see a movie (bad place on a 1st date), so we met at the theater. This girl was so short it was insane. She was o.k. looking, very insecure, but extremely short. I was so mad at myself for letting my buddy talk me into going out with her. I'm 5'8' so I'm no giant, but I can't go out with a woman barely 5 feet.

ummm yeah you're FAR from a gaint lol...I'm 5'10...6 ft plus with heels...unfortunately I would have to look down then over you little man...

agzg · #**163** 03-19-2007, 11:31 PM

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Originally Posted by kddani

You're a short guy. A 5 foot tall girl is perfect for you. Girls over like 5'5 or so aren't going to want a man that they can't even wear heels around. A girl being 8 inches shorter than you is a pretty good ratio.

I'm 5'3. Most of my boyfriends have been 6'1 or taller.

I like being a foot shorter than my date, honestly!

christiangirl · #**164** 03-20-2007, 12:12 AM

I guess my strikes also include smoking (I don't smoke anymore, so if you do don't come near me), spending more than 20% of the time looking below my neck (the only exception is if I have a stain on my shirt and you're trying to be subtle about telling me).

Hmm...guys who are total pushovers are a biggie. If the answer to every question is "Me, too" then forget it. I've worked hard to have my own mind. I don't want a guy who works hard to have my own mind.

cheerfulgreek · #**165** 03-20-2007, 12:35 AM

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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Not too long ago my best friend set me up on a blind date that I didn't want to go on, but he talked me into it. She and I talked on the phone for a few hours, a week before our date. She wanted to go see a movie (bad place on a 1st date), so we met at the theater. This girl was so short it was insane. She was o.k. looking, very insecure, but extremely short. I was so mad at myself for letting my buddy talk me into going out with her. I'm 5'8' so I'm no giant, but I can't go out with a woman barely 5 feet.

PrettyBoy you're a little guy. I'm 5'7". I don't wear really high heels but the heels I do wear I would stilll be taller than you. We should start calling you PrettyshortBoy. LOL.