How come I almost never see black women at bars?

[AKA_Monet]

So one of my co-workers in California asked me to attend her birthday party at a Country-Western Bar!!!

So I tricked a friend of mine to go with me and we go...

I must say for happy hour, the bar had one of the BEST spreads in the city for the cheapest amount of money...

But I have never desired to ever go that bar again... I was too uncomfortable.

[orighu]

Originally Posted by CrimsonTide4

Although a tip I learned is to spray your hair with oil sheen before going to bed and the smell will at least be gone from your hair.

Thanks - that is a helpful tip for the hair......

Although I tease my husband all the time for not wanting to go out to drink cause he's too cheap to want to pay for the drinks - I have to agree with Still_BLUTANG prefer to drink at home

[OOhsoflyDELTA#9]

Originally Posted by CrimsonTide4

The V Lounge (the name is hella misleading) USED to be nice but now it is STRAIGHT HOOOOOOD. I went for the first time ever last month and I felt like I was there chaperoning every student that had ever failed my class. I was shook!!!

Now if I go to the Time Hotel Lounge in the good ol Big Apple, I will shake my groove thang, LMAO And I have pictures of you too!!!!

The top floor of the V Lounge is going to come crashing down one night...they allow that joint to be packed way past fire capacity I'm sure....lol

it is expensive to drink in most downtown Charlotte bars....we usually start drinking at home and then we only have to nurse our buzz after that...luckily we usually drink free at Fox and Hound...I can only think of one true lounge and its in NoDa, a kinda bohemian cool neighborhood..it draws a really diverse crowd...

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by Dionysus

I've never been to McGurk's either, but I heard a LOT of positive things about it. I want to go there one day.

Awww, I've even been there! We also like O'Connell's and Dressels.

I'm a black gal, and I like bars. I'm usually there with guy friends, though, who are all white.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by Dionysus

I notice when I go to bars (particularly those geared towards young and straight people), I notice that I almost never see other black women. It's really weird. I see other minority women, such as Asian women. I also see black men. Maybe it's only a STL thing. I probably won't get a serious answer, but oh well...

Two reasons:

1) When white men get drunk, they want to kiss everyone.
2) When white women get drunk, they want to kiss everyone and dance with other women.

Yeah, that's it........

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

I'm a black gal, and I like bars. I'm usually there with guy friends, though, who are all white.

"Therein lies the rub," or something like it.

Most bars are predominently white male, for a number of reasons that are boring to discuss in a thread such as this.

[Dionysus]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

Awww, I've even been there! We also like O'Connell's and Dressels.

I'm a black gal, and I like bars. I'm usually there with guy friends, though, who are all white.

Exactly where is McGurk's? South St. Louis?

[Dionysus]

I can't believe I got serious responses in this thread. Thank you all.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by Dionysus

I can't believe I got serious responses in this thread. Thank you all.

I know and that sucks.

[VandalSquirrel]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Ironically, one of the best places to get your hurr did up in the Pacific NW is Moscow, Idaho...

I think I may know who you're talking about, it is a small town after all.

Dionysus I have a killer sinus infection but I'll be sure to do a statistical analysis for you when I go to bars again

[tld221]

Originally Posted by Dionysus

I guess I will be honest. I'm very self-conscious in all black social environments. I have no idea how to interact. When you've been the token almost everywhere since you were a young kid, it's actually easy to get used to it.

you know, i have been in situations where ive gotten comfortable being the token, especially at parties and social events. honestly, it would be like a united colors of benetton advertisement, with your (token) asian, black, spanish person. then you get a racially ambiguous person or two, maybe a gay or indian person...

point is, ive been the only "one" in the bar and it can be uncomfortable and such, but come on, sometimes bars have the best deals, like dollar beer night (if youre in NYC, holla at me at Off the Wagon on Mondays) or quarter pitcher night (Wednesdays at Town Tavern). i have learned to like bars, but its not my preference of hangout spots.

some nights im in the mood for a bar, to just sit and have a drink. sure, i can do away with the smoke (i HATE cig smoke, but since NY has no more smoking in bars, dont have to worry anymore. and it irks me when i go out of town and am in a smoky bar) but some nights, i dont want to do the loud music/dance thing.

also in nyc, the lines of bar/restaurant/lounge are blurred, which can be a good thing if you wanna get your dance on one minute and then next just wanna sit down and knock one back.

[DSTCHAOS]

Ugh @ people typing "token" and meaning it.

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by tld221

you know, i have been in situations where ive gotten comfortable being the token, especially at parties and social events.

Yeah, that was my grad school experience, and therefore my professional experience, in a nutshell. I can't wait to meet another black person who does what I do. I've met a few engineers who do similar things...close, but no cigar.

I prefer bars to clubs. I went to the 4040 club here in NYC a few weeks ago, and I was booooored. I'm not that much of a dancer. I would rather sit with some friends drinking beers and watching the Red Sox than dancing any day.

[tld221]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

Ugh @ people typing "token" and meaning it.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by tld221

Well, "token" is a derogatory reference but being the only black person in most settings (educational, professional, or social) doesn't automatically make you a token unless THEY make you the token.