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Originally Posted by ForeverRoses
I actually like Gamma Phi's policy of the chapter not calling. Honestly, when a chapter does call, do they really tell the "whole truth" or do they just say things to try and make the chapter sound good?
I can't imagine a legacy being cut for not being up to chapter "standards" (whatever those might be) and then the alumna actually being told the whole truth. I know from personal experience that the alumna is usually told something about the legacy being a "better fit somewhere else" or that "they didn't seem interested in us" or "they seemed to really love a different house". Bascially, the reason is sugar-coated. So why even call? Let the PNM call and if the alumna wants more answers, they can contact the chapter directly.
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I can see all of your points on some level although I wouldn't think you'd want to set up the expectation that an alumna could call the house and hear about MS to her satisfaction.
The chapter making the call does kind of suggest that it's the time for the alum to ask her questions, sugar-coated as the answers are likely to be. But it certainly could be done as a follow up note, I suppose, as well, as as some other posters pointed out, you could soften the news by noting that the PNM joined another group.
As I've said before, there are a lot of practical reasons that I can see why not calling works during recruitment. I can only imagine how angry alumnae get when the chapter is supposed to call and then cuts someone without calling.
Gamma Phi Beta's may be the best practical policy.
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