I am at the end of my rope with two of my best girlfriends. I have known each of them since I was in 6th grade. They are both involved in awful relationships. One friend is married to a guy who is mentally and verbally abusive to her. The other is dating a guy who is manipulative, lacks common courtesy, and shows all the signs of a cheater. They have both asked me for my opinion on their situations, and since I have known these women since we were kids, I was honest. They need to drop these clowns! I stated all my reasons why I think they each deserve better. However, they just continue to allow themselves to be manipulated over and over again (this has been going on for several years with the married friend, and several months with the one who is dating the guy).
At least once a week, these two call me up, crying over something that these characters did or did not do. When they don't call about it, they are constantly texting me about it. We can't even go out and enjoy lunch or a movie anymore because the entire outing consists of them complaining about these guys. Actually, the married one cannot even come out anymore because she is NOT ALLOWED to.
I am so stressed because I keep seeing these two dear friends hurt. I have told each of them that I am always here for them, but that I will no longer give any opinions on their situations because I've said what I had to say, and that's all. I've noticed that the other gals we hang out with do not come around as much (I think they are just fed up with the drama). I don't want to do the same, or abandon my friends because they have been good to me all my life. I pray daily about this, and I need some advise, please.
(Normally I wouldn't put a personal problem out on an internet board, but I want to refrain from discussing this situation with other friends in our group, and need some un-biased opinions.)
At the End of My Rope!
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