I need an opinion?

OmegaPDPrez · #1 08-10-2007, 03:20 PM

I have been spending alot of time with a guy for two months now.

(we've known each other for almost a year)
We've been to see movies, he's taken me to dinner, and we spend some time just hanging out. I just dont understand why he hasnt kissed me yet. Should i just kiss him?

In the past whenever i dated a guy, he was always the first to kiss me. And now it seems, this guy just doesnt want to. When we are together i make sure to sit really close to him, which it seems he doesnt mind, cause he puts his arm around me and hold me closer. But no kiss. Not even a peck. So, i am thinking. Maybe he's shy? In that case, would it be a good idea for me to just kiss him, or should i continue to wait until he feels a littl more comfortable with me. (Maybe give him a drink, to help loosen him up??)

It kind of bothers me because this is the longest i have ever been with someone and have yet to be kissed by him.

I feel like, "he like me other wise he wouldnt spend time with me." But, "what is he waiting for, how can i show him that its okay for him to kiss me??"
Some answers would be appreciated~

1908Revelations · #2 08-10-2007, 03:30 PM

I don't know what to tell you, because I am not one to initiate.

It seems that the closeness whould indicate "Hey, kiss me!"

Just kiss him!

YOu might make yourself more nervous if you keep thinking about it. But then again this comes form the girl who doesn't initiate.

OneTimeSBX · #3 08-10-2007, 04:34 PM

has it crossed over from "Just friends" yet?

he may be scared to kiss you, and its kinda cute, in a sweet, wierd way. maybe he doesnt think you are into him enough to put you on the line, or possibly (ive run into this) he is just too much of a gentleman.

my suggestion, put yourself in situations where your face is near his face.

like this^^!

TonyB06 · #4 08-10-2007, 04:38 PM

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Originally Posted by OmegaPDPrez

I have been spending alot of time with a guy for two months now.

(we've known each other for almost a year)
We've been to see movies, he's taken me to dinner, and we spend some time just hanging out. I just dont understand why he hasnt kissed me yet. Should i just kiss him?

In the past whenever i dated a guy, he was always the first to kiss me. And now it seems, this guy just doesnt want to. When we are together i make sure to sit really close to him, which it seems he doesnt mind, cause he puts his arm around me and hold me closer. But no kiss. Not even a peck. So, i am thinking. Maybe he's shy? In that case, would it be a good idea for me to just kiss him, or should i continue to wait until he feels a littl more comfortable with me. (Maybe give him a drink, to help loosen him up??)

It kind of bothers me because this is the longest i have ever been with someone and have yet to be kissed by him.

I feel like, "he like me other wise he wouldnt spend time with me." But, "what is he waiting for, how can i show him that its okay for him to kiss me??"
Some answers would be appreciated~

give him time. he probably doesn't want to "blow it" or have you think he was moving too fast.

as someone else said, manage to put your face "near" his a couple of times and go from there. .....but avoid the onions at dinner.

Sugar08 · #5 08-10-2007, 05:00 PM

I would say give him some time, and maybe try some activities where it's just the two of you at home. I went through the same experience recently with a guy I'm dating. He told me later he's not at all into PDA, which is why he didn't kiss me until we spent a night in.

And yeah... try putting your face close to his (in a laughing way). That usually works.

James · #6 08-10-2007, 05:40 PM

Kiss him. It sounds like he is not absolutely sure whether you are friends are not. . . the longer he waits to kiss you the harder it is.

Kevin · #7 08-10-2007, 06:32 PM

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Originally Posted by James

Kiss him. It sounds like he is not absolutely sure whether you are friends are not. . . the longer he waits to kiss you the harder it is.

Yep.

minDyG · #8 08-11-2007, 01:04 AM

I agree with the guys on this one. Just kiss him.

PrettyBoy · #9 08-11-2007, 04:14 AM

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Originally Posted by OmegaPDPrez

I have been spending alot of time with a guy for two months now.

(we've known each other for almost a year)
We've been to see movies, he's taken me to dinner, and we spend some time just hanging out. I just dont understand why he hasnt kissed me yet. Should i just kiss him?

In the past whenever i dated a guy, he was always the first to kiss me. And now it seems, this guy just doesnt want to. When we are together i make sure to sit really close to him, which it seems he doesnt mind, cause he puts his arm around me and hold me closer. But no kiss. Not even a peck. So, i am thinking. Maybe he's shy? In that case, would it be a good idea for me to just kiss him, or should i continue to wait until he feels a littl more comfortable with me. (Maybe give him a drink, to help loosen him up??)

It kind of bothers me because this is the longest i have ever been with someone and have yet to be kissed by him.

I feel like, "he like me other wise he wouldnt spend time with me." But, "what is he waiting for, how can i show him that its okay for him to kiss me??"
Some answers would be appreciated~

I'm very shy like him, but nice legs and pretty feet will break me down and usually cause me to kiss her. It won't be a peck though.

virgo921 · #10 08-11-2007, 06:01 PM

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Originally Posted by OmegaPDPrez

I have been spending alot of time with a guy for two months now.

(we've known each other for almost a year)
We've been to see movies, he's taken me to dinner, and we spend some time just hanging out. I just dont understand why he hasnt kissed me yet. Should i just kiss him?

In the past whenever i dated a guy, he was always the first to kiss me. And now it seems, this guy just doesnt want to. When we are together i make sure to sit really close to him, which it seems he doesnt mind, cause he puts his arm around me and hold me closer. But no kiss. Not even a peck. So, i am thinking. Maybe he's shy? In that case, would it be a good idea for me to just kiss him, or should i continue to wait until he feels a littl more comfortable with me. (Maybe give him a drink, to help loosen him up??)

It kind of bothers me because this is the longest i have ever been with someone and have yet to be kissed by him.

I feel like, "he like me other wise he wouldnt spend time with me." But, "what is he waiting for, how can i show him that its okay for him to kiss me??"
Some answers would be appreciated~

This may be "old fashioned" but, maybe he's being respectful.
In the time you've known him, has he been one to be physically agressive? Or has he expressed a set of values that would imply that he wants to develop a solid relationship with you?

What do you want from him? Just something sexual...then go ahead and kiss him.
If you want something long term, then let the man take his time and enjoy what you have (patience grasshopper

).

OmegaPDPrez · #11 08-12-2007, 03:26 PM

Ok, so say i wait. But how long should i wait for him to make the first move. I've never been with a shy man before so i dont know how they work. I think i will take it slow with him just so i wont drive him away from moving to fast. But i was afraid that if i didnt do something first he might feel that im not into him. So i am very confused. For now, i will wait for him. I'll give it another month, and then im making a move. I'd like some affection!!! << Virgo921, its not about sex, its about really feeling like he likes to be with me. Even if he justs holds my hand. but i think he should want to kiss me at some point!
Has anyone else ever been with someone like this?

texas*princess · #12 08-12-2007, 05:19 PM

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Originally Posted by OneTimeSBX

my suggestion, put yourself in situations where your face is near his face.

like this^^!

I second that... then take it to the next level and smack one on him. it doesn't have to be one of those super long kisses, just something small to let him know it's ok if he wants to give you one of those super long kisses

virgo921 · #13 08-13-2007, 10:08 AM

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Originally Posted by OmegaPDPrez

Ok, so say i wait. But how long should i wait for him to make the first move. I've never been with a shy man before so i dont know how they work. I think i will take it slow with him just so i wont drive him away from moving to fast. But i was afraid that if i didnt do something first he might feel that im not into him. So i am very confused. For now, i will wait for him. I'll give it another month, and then im making a move. I'd like some affection!!! << Virgo921, its not about sex, its about really feeling like he likes to be with me. Even if he justs holds my hand. but i think he should want to kiss me at some point!
Has anyone else ever been with someone like this?

But you've known this guy for some time so, what has he shown you in the past from other relationships he's been in?

Since it's not a physical relationship now, the fact that he is spending time with you says he likes being with you. He puts his arm around you and holds you closer. Isn't that affection?

I've been with shy men before and I've pushed the issue and in hindsight, it could have waited.

If you want a kiss, then kiss him.

DaemonSeid · #14 08-13-2007, 10:27 AM

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Originally Posted by OmegaPDPrez

(Maybe give him a drink, to help loosen him up??) Some answers would be appreciated~

That's grounds for sexual assault!!! LOL

OmegaPDPrez · #15 08-16-2007, 09:15 AM

ok, so no alcohol needed! He finally kissed me last night.

How sweet. all it took was for us to be cuddled together in his bed.