Need your opinion

KarenC725 · #1 12-23-2001, 05:23 PM

Ok, I need some help with this situation. Let me know your thoughts on it.

For my birthday (July 25), my boyfriend gave me a $300 necklace, had 25 long stemmed roses delivered to my work, and took me out to dinner. I of course loved all of it. It was the necklace that I wanted, although I meant the $25 fake one from Claire's (its the diamond solitare circle that hangs on a gold chain.) My friends convinced him that he had to get me a real one. I would have been happy with going to dinner and spending time with him. Or the flowers. All of it was very out of character.

Now forward to Christmas. He says (and trust me, I DON'T CARE) that from the beginning, my necklace was my birthday and Christmas present. That's fine. I was going to spend a good amount of money on him anyway so I didn't care. As of today, I've spent $260. (Oh, I make about 20 grand less than he does)

The fact that I'm not getting anything big has turned into a community situation. ALL of our friends keep telling me that he isn't joking, I'm not getting a lot or anything big. I don't know how many times I can tell them that I DON'T CARE.

What I need an opinion on is this: I'm pissed that everyone views me as this materialist bitch. I'm beginning to get so mad at them since they bring it up in every friggin conversation. Am I overreacting? I'm about to tell my boyfriend to not give me anything. What do you think?

Kevlar281 · #2 12-23-2001, 05:33 PM

Well I am sure he got you something and since you don’t expect anything grand considering the circumstances of your birthday present I really wouldn’t worry about it. I think your friends are the ones with materialistic issues.

KSigkid · #3 12-23-2001, 05:38 PM

The fact that you're saying this means that you're not a materialistic bitch. Friends make more out of these situations than the people involved actually do - it's just kinda the nature of relationships. You're going about things the right way, and your boyfriend understands and appreciates that. As far as the other people telling you stuff -they're not you, so tell them to mind their own business.

KarenC725 · #4 12-23-2001, 05:40 PM

What gets me is that everyone thinks I should care. Everyone else brings it up and then I get angry and pissy and it becomes a big deal. Last I checked, I was 25, not 5. For the record, I didn't ask for anything for my birthday or Christmas. I'd be happy with another Curious George book

justamom · #5 12-24-2001, 09:28 AM

Karen, I know EXACTLY what you are talking about! Kevlar281
is absolutely correct...it IS your friends that have the issues.

When I got married, I did not "get" an engagement ring. I helped pay for our wedding bands. He was just out of school and was setting up his office. It didn't matter one iota to me, but SOME of my close friends had a hard time with it.

To this day, I STILL don't have a diamond on my hand but I have one by my side. However, for our 10th aniversary, he gave be the most beautiful emerald necklace surrounded by10 diamonds. I have since inherited my grandmother's diamond and my Hubby knows I won't pitch a fit if he doesn't lavish me with jewels.

You won't be able to change your friends' attitude and it can be hard when they say things like that. It can make YOU start questioning things that are really unimportant. Maybe you should turn the table and ask why it is so important to them.

KarenC725 · #6 12-26-2001, 02:17 AM

Well, I guess I got something big. Besides the Gap sweater, t-shirt, and CD that he knew I was gonna buy myself, he got me... a nice gold and diamond bracelet. He suggested that I go tomorrow and get a link taken out so that it fits better. I was so shocked and surprised. And as he said, he got it because he wanted me to have something special.

justamom · #7 12-26-2001, 08:21 AM

Well, that should put a sock in those "friends'" mouths!!! (hee, hee)
Pretty nice Christmas!

BrownEyedGirl · #8 12-26-2001, 10:44 AM

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Originally posted by justamom
To this day, I STILL don't have a diamond on my hand but I have one by my side. However, for our 10th aniversary, he gave be the most beautiful emerald necklace surrounded by10 diamonds. I have since inherited my grandmother's diamond and my Hubby knows I won't pitch a fit if he doesn't lavish me with jewels.

JAM, that is so sweet!! I love your attitude - I wish it would rub off on some girls I know!