New Member/Colony Lavalier Question

[LCAGuy]

Hey Everyone,

I'm a founding father of a recolonization. I have been dating my girlfriend for over two years, and this is the summer that I am going to pop the question. We are in an excellent relationship, she graduated last year and stayed local to wait for me.

She is also an alum of a sorority on my campus.

I am an Associate Member (who is soon to initiate).

I wanted to ask here for guidance and some advice.

I want to Lavalier my girlfriend for Christmas. I understand that I am a new member. I do NOT want to look like some A-hole who is rushing into this. This is NOT some "I've been dating her for 3 months" deal and I "think" I'm head over heels and we will probably break up in another month or two. This was an already established and serious relationship before I joined.

I wanted to know if this would be in poor taste as it is so soon. I understand from some other posts that the "Lavalier" is not a recognized symbol, but the Friendship Pin is.

I did not want to talk to our Consultant because I felt that he might view me as a D-bag for doing this so soon after recolonization.

What say you, my elder brothers of LCA?

[DubaiSis]

Lane swerve: I would say you looking like a dork would be if the relationship to the GIRL is new, not the chapter. I'd ask your consultant for advice on the process and rules. It might be nice as a new chapter or colony, to see one of the guys (you) go through it for the others to follow.

[AnotherKD]

^^ I agree. Couldn't say it better.

[33girl]

I think his worrying about the dork-ness and soon-ness is more about "wow, I just got my letters and here I am giving them away." The status/length of the boy-girl relationship is immaterial.

Until you're initiated and have had a while to KNOW what your letters really mean to you, I honestly would wait for at least a semester. Girls might think this is sweet as pie, but I can see guys (on a local and a national level) being somewhat offended.

[LCAGuy]

That's pretty much how I felt. I just was unsure. I would have never done anything behind the back of my brothers. I emailed our ELC, but never got a response back. I thought maybe it would look like a d-bag move so soon.

It's hard to "know what the letters" are about at this stage, and it would be disrespectful so soon.

I just thought it would be nice, but I can already see the scorn on the faces of my brothers.

Thanks for the replies.

[Mooch279]

I wouldn’t worry about it too much, as long as you’re initiated, in a committed relationship and the guys in the house know about it ahead of time, I would say congratulations. When I decided to lavalier my wife, I brought it up during a G&W but other guys just talked to the Alpha and/or Pi. Since your chapter is recolonizing you might be missing out on your local lavalier traditions, feel free to stop by UMBC so we can throw you in our pond. Good times.

[LCAGuy]

We are initiating in three weeks. By Christmas, I will be initiated.
I was just unsure of my timing. I will talk to our High Pi about it since the ELC hasn't emailed me back.

Thanks Mooch!

[Mooch279]

Originally Posted by Phi_Delta

Mooch. I just want to say that the pond hasn't looked that good in years.

Tell me about it. I went in it in December.