New Member/Colony Lavalier Question
 

Hey Everyone,

I'm a founding father of a recolonization. I have been dating my girlfriend for over two years, and this is the summer that I am going to pop the question. We are in an excellent relationship, she graduated last year and stayed local to wait for me.

She is also an alum of a sorority on my campus.

I am an Associate Member (who is soon to initiate).

I wanted to ask here for guidance and some advice.

I want to Lavalier my girlfriend for Christmas. I understand that I am a new member. I do NOT want to look like some A-hole who is rushing into this. This is NOT some "I've been dating her for 3 months" deal and I "think" I'm head over heels and we will probably break up in another month or two. This was an already established and serious relationship before I joined.

I wanted to know if this would be in poor taste as it is so soon. I understand from some other posts that the "Lavalier" is not a recognized symbol, but the Friendship Pin is.

I did not want to talk to our Consultant because I felt that he might view me as a D-bag for doing this so soon after recolonization.

What say you, my elder brothers of LCA?

Lane swerve: I would say you looking like a dork would be if the relationship to the GIRL is new, not the chapter. I'd ask your consultant for advice on the process and rules. It might be nice as a new chapter or colony, to see one of the guys (you) go through it for the others to follow.

^^ I agree. Couldn't say it better.

I think his worrying about the dork-ness and soon-ness is more about "wow, I just got my letters and here I am giving them away." The status/length of the boy-girl relationship is immaterial.

Until you're initiated and have had a while to KNOW what your letters really mean to you, I honestly would wait for at least a semester. Girls might think this is sweet as pie, but I can see guys (on a local and a national level) being somewhat offended.

That's pretty much how I felt. I just was unsure. I would have never done anything behind the back of my brothers. I emailed our ELC, but never got a response back. I thought maybe it would look like a d-bag move so soon.

It's hard to "know what the letters" are about at this stage, and it would be disrespectful so soon.

I just thought it would be nice, but I can already see the scorn on the faces of my brothers.

Thanks for the replies.

I wouldn’t worry about it too much, as long as you’re initiated, in a committed relationship and the guys in the house know about it ahead of time, I would say congratulations. When I decided to lavalier my wife, I brought it up during a G&W but other guys just talked to the Alpha and/or Pi. Since your chapter is recolonizing you might be missing out on your local lavalier traditions, feel free to stop by UMBC so we can throw you in our pond. ;) Good times.

https://spaces.umbc.edu/download/att...2/AOK_pond.jpg

We are initiating in three weeks. By Christmas, I will be initiated.
I was just unsure of my timing. I will talk to our High Pi about it since the ELC hasn't emailed me back.

Thanks Mooch!

Tell me about it. I went in it in December.