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Deferring a bid - a good idea?
Hey,
so basically I rushed two fraternities, one which came to be my top choice and one which came to be my "backup". The backup has some nice guys in it to be sure, but I'm not crazy about their lack of socials/events and programming compared to my top choice, which also had some really nice/cool guys.
Anyway, top choice president told me that I couldn't be offered a bid simply because they had a lot of freshmen rush this year, and they wanted to stay a certain size and so they didn't take any upperclassmen, not just me. And I am a Junior who transferred to my school last year, so I understand why they would prioritize Freshmen and I'll try not to take it personally even though I'm really disappointed.
Anyway, I'm pretty sure I will get a bid from my 'backup' because they seem to like me, and for all these emo reasons which I won't get into I would still really like to be in a frat and be part of a brotherhood, but since I have reservations still I think I will defer the bid until next semester. (Which the rush chair told me was an option.)
Anyway, can anyone who deferred a bid tell me what it was like? Like how often you hung out with the brothers, whether you could call them up at any time like if they were an actual brother, how many events you were invited to, etc.
Rush chair told me that if I deferred I wouldnt have access to the house at any time like if I pledged, and I couldn't join any commitees or attend chapter meetings (which I really don't care about anyway).
Just wanted to hear your guy's thoughts on deferring a bid and what that's like.
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