Summer C Drama, Rushing in fall

bmfsu · #1 08-07-2008, 02:25 PM

I started school this summer in tallahassee and ive met lots of new people in the past 6 weeks. Im rooming with my friend from home who isn't rushing because she goes to the CC up here. Well long story short we met mostly upperclassmen and mostly fraternity guys because, well reasons are obvious. Well anyway, she got involved with some drama with the ex gf of one of the frat boys, and as her friend i got pulled into it. Then some of the girls from another sorority also got a little involved because they were also friends with those frat guys. Both those sororities are ones I could see myself in and now Im wondering if something like this could potentially keep me from getting a bid from one of them. It wasn't a large group of girls, and I never did anything or say anything to them, they all picked the fight. Any advice?

33girl · #2 08-07-2008, 02:35 PM

This could be detrimental to your chances, or it could matter not at all. It's really hard to tell without knowing where the women stand in their respective sororities.

My advice is to be nice to them if you see them during rush or elsewhere, DON'T bring it up to anyone anywhere, and take a good look at sororities other than these two. And stop thinking of any groups as your "top choices" before you've met them all at rush.

#3 08-07-2008, 03:23 PM

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Originally Posted by bmfsu

I started school this summer in tallahassee and ive met lots of new people in the past 6 weeks. Im rooming with my friend from home who isn't rushing because she goes to the CC up here. Well long story short we met mostly upperclassmen and mostly fraternity guys because, well reasons are obvious. Well anyway, she got involved with some drama with the ex gf of one of the frat boys, and as her friend i got pulled into it. Then some of the girls from another sorority also got a little involved because they were also friends with those frat guys. Both those sororities are my top choices and Im wondering if something like this could potentially keep me from getting a bid from one of them. It wasn't a large group of girls, and I never did anything or say anything to them, they all picked the fight. Any advice?

First of all, if you're already having top choices, you may be setting yourself up for disappointment.

Second, what 33girl said. It could be that you're SOL, or it won't matter. For all you know, you might fall in love with another house during recruitment. If these girls use this as an excuse to cut you, let em. Do you really want to be a part of a house with petty and jealous girls like that?

Don't waste your time worrying about it.

nittanyalum · #4 08-07-2008, 03:38 PM

I think 33girl and OTW are being pretty kind; the first thing I thought while reading your post is "oh, she's toast". There's no way to be sure, but that's why the advice here time after time is MIND YOUR Ps&Qs WHEN DEALING WITH FRATERNITY GUYS AND WOMEN IN THE CHAPTERS if your goal is a successful rush. It's been a while for me, but I flashed right back to my college days when you described that scenario, and I can tell you that if someone messed with someone else's ex-boyfriend and not only other sisters and chapters got involved but the fraternity guys know who you are (and guys gossip as bad if not worse than girls), I think you may have seriously hampered your chances with those houses. From what I've read, rush is pretty competitive down there and the big houses probably have to find reasons to cut. You and your CC friend just gave them a reason on a silver platter.

On a side note, girl fights are a terrible spectacle and so class-less, I hate hearing about them. MIND YOUR MANNERS AND YOUR OWN DAMN BUSINESS, LADIES.

KSUViolet06 · #5 08-07-2008, 04:17 PM

These types of situations are exactly why we tell girls to be careful when going out with/partying with fraternity guys. All it takes is one misunderstanding between a girl and a sorority member to start some drama that could affect recruitment. I've seen it happen too many times.

To answer your question, yes it could very well end up hurting you during recruitment. Sisters talk, so this small group of members could very well have told other members ablut the situation.

My advice would be to be cordial to them if you see them (but don't be totally fake and suck up to them), and don't bring up the situation to anyone else (unless you want more people to get involved).

Also, it's really important to be open-minded about all the sororities. Recruitment hasn't started yet and you may find that your opinions will change once you start meeting girls from each one. If you're rushing at a big school like UF or FSU, there are quite a few sororities and you shouldn't get your mind stuck on being in these 2 (particularly with this drama going on).

AlphaXi_Husky · #6 08-07-2008, 04:25 PM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

These types of situations are the reason why we tell girls to be careful when going out with/partying with fraternity guys. All it takes is one misunderstanding between a girl and a sorority member to start some drama that could affect recruitment. I've seen it happen too many times.

To answer your question, yes it could very well end up hurting you during recruitment. Sisters talk, so this small group of members could very well have told other members ablut the situation.

My advice would be to be cordial to them if you see them (but don't be totally fake and suck up to them), and don't bring up the situation to anyone else (unless you want more people to get involved).

Also, it's really important to be open-minded about all the sororities. Recruitment hasn't started yet and you may find that your opinions will change once you start meeting girls from each one. If you're rushing at a big school like UF or FSU, there are quite a few sororities and you shouldn't get your mind stuck on being in these 2 (particularly with this drama going on).

Co-sign. Excellent advice.

FSUZeta · #7 08-07-2008, 07:53 PM

rush is very competitive at fsu-i think you would be wise to expand your sights, especially since you were sucked into the roommate drama.don't write off the 2 sororities involved, but don't be surprised if you are not invited back after ice waters. if you truly want to be in "a" sorority at fsu, give them all a chance. maybe they haven't all heard about the cat fight yet.