Would you break up a physical fight between a couple??

delicaterose617 · #1 05-21-2008, 01:28 AM

okay.. So the Tyra show did an episode regarding how likely people are to break up a physical fight between a couple..So I would like to see what you ladies say. Would you break it up or call the cops and keep it moving

Also I was faced with this dilema when my roommate and her girl friend were physically fighting.

Between a man and a woman?

Btween two women?

Between two men?

Little32 · #2 05-21-2008, 07:11 AM

I was always told to be careful of those situations, because the two people fighting might gang up on you or it also might be a scam. So in any situtation, unless I know the people personally, I would probably call the cops.

If I know the people personally, I would try to break up the first two, but I would not touch the third.

MeezDiscreet · #3 05-21-2008, 10:27 AM

I don't break up fights. AT.ALL.

I've jumped in to fights tho.

DSTCHAOS · #4 05-21-2008, 10:30 AM

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Originally Posted by MeezDiscreet

I've jumped in to fights tho.

hahaha

It always depends on who's fighting and how much damage is being done.

Dionysus · #5 05-21-2008, 10:49 AM

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Originally Posted by MeezDiscreet

I don't break up fights. AT.ALL.

I've jumped in to fights tho.

Me either, I'm a fragile flower. Edited: I didn't pay attention to the white part at first, but I'm LMAO!

Between a man and a woman?
I'll call the cops.

Btween two women?
Do nothing. Women being violent is hella hot.

Between two men?
Do nothing. Maybe yell "fight!" like I did in middle school. And why should I pay money to watch men wrestle and box, when I can watch one in the street for free?

preciousjeni · #6 05-21-2008, 12:22 PM

If it's an argument that's getting heated, I'll usually ask "Are y'all ok?" to draw attention to the fact that another people are noticing what's happening. If there's a fight in progress, I'll call the police.

On a related topic, if I have ANY question about someone's safety (child, woman, man, whatever), I'll ask if they're ok. This has gotten me in trouble with parents in the past. It's one thing to smack your child in public, but it's another to beat the child down, particuarly with a weapon of some sort. If a child is on the ground and still getting hit, I'll ask if there's a problem.

TonyB06 · #7 05-21-2008, 12:49 PM

I think I'd try to intervene if I saw a man hitting a woman (although that's a punk-azz move, and he'd probably pull up once he realized his punktivity was on full display.)

Two dudes or two women scrapping? ...I'd probably call 911, or go get one of the ever-present and effective mall security men.

BlessedOne04 · #8 05-21-2008, 12:50 PM

I don't break up fights. Not adults, kids or animals.

I will call the proper authorities.

naturaldiscretn · #9 05-21-2008, 01:06 PM

It depends on how well I knew the people fighting. I would never break up a random people fighting. If I knew them well and felt confident in breaking it up, then I would.

christiangirl · #10 05-21-2008, 01:40 PM

If it's one of my female friends (not so much male), most definitely. That's just how people in my circle are. If one of us is in trouble, the girlfriends are there waiting to dance.

The same with family members of either sex...if one is threatened, like 20 cousins pop up out of nowhere. I've broken up several of those, with help and on my own. As far as strangers, I've called the police once or twice and I've also hung out the window with my friends watching and making ignorant comments...it just depends on how funny it is.

delicaterose617 · #11 05-21-2008, 02:56 PM

Ironically enough when Tyra did this experiement the only fight that people intervened in was the one between the man and the woman. The girlfriend couple and the boyfriends couple just recieved stares from bystanders.

I ended up calling the cops. I didn't feel comfortable breaking up the fight because it was really a lovers quarrel where one was saying I want you and the other one was saying I don't want you. As some one else mentioned above. I would have hate to try and split it up only to get ganged up on ( after all it was an on and off agian type couple. I knew them pretty well because one is my roommate....

thanks for the responses.

I think its inappropraite to disipline a child in public... I don't have a problem with parents "whoopin" there kids but in public opens up a can of worms.

christiangirl · #12 05-21-2008, 03:18 PM

^^^Was this the episode from this morning? I usually wake up in time to watch, but missed it today and wondered what the topic was.

Benzgirl · #13 05-21-2008, 03:23 PM

Would I break any of them up?

HELL to the NO!

Still BLUTANG · #14 05-21-2008, 07:27 PM

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Originally Posted by preciousjeni

If it's an argument that's getting heated, I'll usually ask "Are y'all ok?" to draw attention to the fact that another people are noticing what's happening. If there's a fight in progress, I'll call the police.

On a related topic, if I have ANY question about someone's safety (child, woman, man, whatever), I'll ask if they're ok. This has gotten me in trouble with parents in the past. It's one thing to smack your child in public, but it's another to beat the child down, particuarly with a weapon of some sort. If a child is on the ground and still getting hit, I'll ask if there's a problem.

i've done that before. i don't PHYSICALLY get involved but the eye contact to the "victim", ARE YOU OK, and eye contact back to the "aggressor" has been used to diffuse the situation.

random but related. one night back in college i was out late... in a place i had NO BUSINESS BEING anyway... and called my roomate to pick me up. on our way back to campus we see two people SCRAPPIN in the street. as we drove by we say hair flying so we were like oh no, thats a woman getting beat down. We drove up, honked the horn and flashed the lights and yelled GET IN THE CAR!!!!!! The dude was startled so he just kinda stood there while she jumped in... we drove about another block to a 24/7 grocery store and thank god there was a policeman on patrol. I don't know what happened after that but the lady was just crying and my roomie and i were shook for about a week after that.

anytime i *think* i see a situation i make sure to do the "are you o.k." check cause you never know.

TotallyWicked · #15 05-21-2008, 08:04 PM

I've broken up fights between two female friends...not a bright idea..but I was real close to em, one of em struck me...i didn't respond cause uh a 6'3'' dude hitting a woman back wouldn't be a good look

I haven't broken up a fight between male friends...from my experience it only occasionally gets physical....

and I don't get involved with couples..unless I sense there is some severity, e.g. I learn that there has been some problems...I know how to get involved without making things dangerous.