New question re: transferring schools

[HDL66]

My daughter will be transferring to a different university to enter a rigorous professional degree program. She has been very involved in her sorority and it has taken a good deal of time. Although she loves it, she is deciding not to pursue affiliation at the new school because she is concerned she will not have enough time to devote to the house as an active.

This is my question: has anyone transferred schools and had any kind of meaningful relationship with their sorority at the new school without affiliating? If so, how did it come about and what did it consist of? Or, is it pretty much "all or nothing?"

On a related note, if you saw someone (collegiate age) on your campus wearing your letters and they weren't a member of your local organization, would you approach them and want to get to know them? Just curious.

Thanks!

[ForeverRoses]

Hmm. I think it would be hard for someone to have a relationship with a chapter without any real connection to it. I could see becoming friends with some of the member via classes, study groups, etc.
If she wants some sort of connection, maybe her current president could send a letter of introduction to the new campus' chapter president that just introduces her so that they would know who she was if they saw her walking around in letters.

[Buttonz]

I didn't affiliate with the SDT chapter at my current school (for reasons of my own one of them being they are totally different from my chapter) and I walk around in letters all the time. I have yet to be stopped or asked about them, including when I'm sitting in class with my sisters

[AZ-AlphaXi]

She could also pursue joining the local alumnae association ... much less time commitment but still offers support and sisterhood, not to mention the chance to network with local alumnae.

[33girl]

How big is the school and the chapters? I think if the school and Greek system are smaller, she's more likely to meet sisters. I know if my chapter would have met a sister in your daughter's situation, we most likely would have said "hi! Where were you an ASA?" and asked her to hang out with us at parties or such, but not any official events.

If it's a bigger school though, it might be less likely that she'll get to know any of them. However, there's a possibility that if the chapter is bigger it might be easier for her to be active...if she was in a chapter of 30 and had to hold multiple offices, she could go to a chapter of 120 and be "just" a member without having so many responsibilities.

And the last option is, it could have nothing to do with size and it could turn out that she and the chapter at her new school just have absolutely nothing in common and no desire to be in each other's company. Sometimes chapters can be funny too....they think if they didn't put those letters on your back, you shouldn't be wearing them around at all.

She can always contact sisters she finds on myspace or facebook and explain her situation. Good luck to her!

[Elephant Walk]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Sometimes chapters can be funny too....they think if they didn't put those letters on your back, you shouldn't be wearing them around at all.

No comment.

[FSUZeta]

Originally Posted by ForeverRoses

If she wants some sort of connection, maybe her current president could send a letter of introduction to the new campus' chapter president that just introduces her so that they would know who she was if they saw her walking around in letters.

i think this is a lovely idea.

ksuviolet06-i love the way your chapter approached sisters that had transferred to ksu-that is what sisterhood is all about!